Where and how to find the soulmate?

On the earth a huge number of people and each of them has desires, dreams. Also unites this human variety — desire to find the soulmate. At some it it turns out at once, others spend years for search of the partner in life. Anyway, it is not necessary to despair if success did not come to you at once. Perhaps, put in you, and it is necessary to work a little bit over itself to draw attention of an opposite sex. What to begin with and how to work, we will tell further.

What it is necessary to begin with to find the soulmate?

Successfully to find the soulmate it is necessary to work for a start over itself. And it is unimportant, the man you or the woman, it is pleasant to nobody if they meet an attractive individual of an opposite sex, and her appearance leaves much to be desired.

It is important! If you consider that similar changes in your appearance will not make you more beautifully, more attractively, then it is possible to risk to change cardinally image or at least to change a hairstyle.

Also the inner world does not shine. Therefore make of yourself such person with whom it would be pleasant to you to be nearby, to communicate, start close relationship.

Accurate appearance

The appearance is some kind of business card of the person and reflection of its inner self is quite frequent. If you meet on the street the personality going in not well-groomed footwear rumpled, untidy clothes with chaotically wild hair, then, most likely, inside it the same not collected and unorganized, as well as its appearance.

You hardly pay attention to such person and furthermore want to communicate with it, only, if not the owner of such look. But most often women look for the prince, and men — queens, and not poor simpletons. Therefore:

1. Pay attention to the appearance, hygiene. It will be pleasant to nobody if his interlocutor exhales unpleasant aroma.
2. You watch the clothes. It does not mean at all that it is necessary to run to buy new things from the last collection. You have to look stylish and with taste therefore if you are not able to afford expensive new thing, reconsider the clothes. Perhaps, in it there are things which never stop being fashionable (business suits) or things on which the fashion returned again. The successful combinations of elements of clothes complemented with correctly picked up accessories will help to refresh your image.
3. Do not forget about accessories. At women them is the brooch, a scarf, jewelry, a corbel, a bag, gloves, points. For men it is a tie, a belt, a purse, hours, a bag, cuff links. They have to be picked up according to your image and emphasize your identity.

Important! By drawing up a portrait of the half it is not necessary to put a rigid framework, especially in such parameters as growth, weight, the size of a breast and another. With such rigid framework it is possible to spend a lot of time for search of narrowed/narrowed.

Love for

The love will not come to you until you have this feeling in relation to yourself. And besides, as it is possible to fall in love with the person if he does not love himself. Very few people will like to listen to constant moaning about what he unlucky as something is impossible to it or as at someone everything in life is good, and at it it is bad. Learn to love, to appreciate itself then people around will also treat you. If it is not possible to raise independently the self-assessment, having reconciled to the defects, it is necessary to register in trainings.

Self-sufficiency

The self-sufficient personality it is comfortable and most, more precisely, she is able to be happy and sure without soulmate. And when it finds the couple, she does not lose itself, does not give entirely itself to the partner, and continues to live and enjoy life as earlier, only together with darling.

Whether you know? Fast appointments (speed dating) were thought up by the rabbi from Los Angeles Yakov Devo in 1998 to help those who wish to marry, unite.

Not to become dependent on the partner, it is necessary to learn to get pleasures from stay alone with himself:

• to think up for itself interesting occupation, a hobby;
• more often to spend time with friends and family;
• to find interesting and stable work;
• to try to be self-assured and trust in the opportunities;
• to keep a diary in which your purposes and steps on their achievement will be stated all the time to see them and to control their performance.

Sincerity

Sincere person always open, cheerful, smiling. Not only it is more pleasant to communicate with such person, but also it is easier to start a conversation. He will never accept the closed, defensive pose. He is always ready to new acquaintances, communication. Be oneself and people to you will stretch.

What to do to find the soulmate: councils of psychologists

Having worked over itself, it is possible to start actions. As psychologists speak, there are five main steps which need to be made on the way to the happiness.

To set a goal

First of all, it is necessary to set the object, but it is not concrete: I want to find the love within half a year or something similar, and mentally, it is the is best of all on paper, to trace an image of the desirable partner in life.

Whether you know? The first dating site appeared in 1995, but the popularity the Internet of space for acquaintance came to use only from the beginning of the 2000th years.

It is necessary to describe its external qualities and traits of character which you wish your partner in life possessed. Now believe that you will surely find him.

It is possible to support all with visualization, mentally representing as you already found couple and as you spend time with it. Find for visualization a short period of time every day, and the Universe surely will award you for efforts and patience.

To communicate and become more a part of society

Of course, one visualization is not enough. If you stay at home and dream of a meeting with the wonderful person all the time, he will hardly be knocked to you at a door. It is necessary to work actively: to happen more in society, to communicate with friends, relatives. The more you have a circle of contacts, the higher to find probability the soulmate. The satellite intended to you by the Universe precisely goes somewhere nearby.

Besides, if your family and friends know that you are in a condition of search, then they will surely try to help you, having taken part in search. Here is how it is possible to find the adherent:

• attend seminars trainings (people to whom, as well as you, a certain subject is interesting gather here);
• think up to yourself an interesting hobby (for example if you like to read, then going to shop behind the next literary novelty, you can meet the same interested readers, as well as you or the lovely seller);
• be engaged in volunteering (good deeds will allow you to feel useful and, who knows, can for your efforts the Universe will award you);
• join the group of graduates of your school or higher education institution (perhaps, here you will meet the forgotten love long ago).

To attend appointments blindly

Often parents, trying to help the daughter / son in search of the soulmate, try to bring together the child with children of the best friend. It can seem to someone not very pleasant, but it is not necessary to refuse a meeting at the same time flatly.

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Even if you know that the candidacy proposed by careful parents not in your taste, communicate to it. Perhaps, you will manage to get the friendly relations, and in a circle of new acquaintances you will find the destiny.

Same concerns also option when your friends suggest you to get acquainted with the good person. Be not afraid to go on a date blindly. Your friends love you and will definitely not offer you the candidate with doubtful reputation.

Today the popularity gathers such option of acquaintance as fast appointments. Most often they are organized in various cafes. The essence of this appointment is in recognizing the partner in 3–7 minutes. Usually on such appointments groups of people of equivalent social groups are selected, and some organizers introduce still age and other restrictions. The cafe of the girl sit at tables with checks, and guys, in turn, change from a table to a table. After the conversation the participants leave a mark and when the meeting ends, organizers compare marks. If there are mutual sympathies, then send contacts to participants. Participants during the conversation can exchange contacts too.

In the modern world with popularity of the Internet one more type of acquaintance appeared — through social networks. A set of dating sites provide the services. Here it is possible to find successful, wealthy persons who because of the fast rate of their life cannot allocate time for a friendly sit-round gathering, campaigns on various actions, etc.

Not to lie about itself

Making the questionnaire on a dating site, try to provide the most accurate information on yourself. You do not want to wait for a meeting with the sportswoman (-ohm), the member of the Komsomol and just the beauty, and to see very unattractive personality far from sport and all rest.

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Of course, it is possible to find any persons far from honesty in a world wide web, but those who really look for the destiny thus wish to find about you as much as possible reliable information.

Also you should not embellish reality and on appointments blindly or fast appointments. If you do not want to reveal any and all secrets at once, then it is possible to miss some nuances, but then when you know the person better, to tell of them. The relations which began with lies will hardly be long.

To work on itself and the relations

When at last nevertheless you meet the soulmate, you should not do hasty conclusions and to tear communication if something does not arrange. All of us are different, everyone has merits and demerits. Even to you in you something can very much it is not pleasant, not to mention the stranger. If you feel, to each other, certain feelings, respect the elect, then it is necessary to discuss those moments which confuse you. Perhaps, most it is not pleasant to other person in itself, but he cannot change in any way.

Here to remember the main thing that it is not necessary to demand that only your partner changed, you also have to change and will adapt to your relations if they are expensive to you. Without work on own personality it will be difficult to keep the relations which you so long looked for.

What should not you do by search of the soulmate?

Whatever was developed and advanced today's world, people, as before, depend on opinion of society. To them it is very important that will tell others as will assess any given situation. Therefore for many the loneliness becomes some nightmare.

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It seems to them that people begin to speak about them what they are unlucky constantly. Under the influence of this fear some men and women often make rash acts, only in order that in the opinion of society to look worthy:

1. Resort to the help of magic. If you believed that the magic is capable to help you, then you have to know that it has a side effect which can be reflected in your physical and mental state.
2. Take away someone's soulmate. Before making it, it is necessary to remember that on others misfortune of happiness you will not construct. And if the person was led on your charms and threw the love where a guarantee that he will not give in to temptation again and will not throw you for the sake of someone another.
3. Use pathetic methods. Here intrigues, deception, blackmail for the sake of achievement of the goal are meant.
4. Neglect everything. Can seem to someone that if to do nothing, then you will not make a mistake. But inaction not the best satellite of love. If you do not act, then as the Universe will understand that you look for the partner in life.
5. Are depressed, suffer. Some desperate to find the happiness lower hands, and then, in a rush of sufferings, decide to marry the first comer on their ways of the person. As a result they not only do not find love, but begin to suffer even more from the fact that this person does not suit them and with him it is difficult to live.

All above-mentioned cannot be used by search of the soulmate as it will not bring you happiness.

Mistakes which people quite often make by search of the destiny:

1. Take chemistry for destiny. The love at first sight is, as a rule, hormonal splash which ceases over time, carrying away for itself feelings. The true love is something bigger.
2. All the free time is spent on search. If at you in the head only one thought turns: how to find the love, in a pursuit of happiness you can push away inadvertently from yourself good people and cast in the lot with the personality who is not absolutely suitable you.
3. Idealize the elect. It often happens when having found the long-awaited happiness, men with brains go to feelings and think that their partner the best. Therefore when this person makes some bad acts, they often close eyes to it, thinking that it not he or it will not repeat any more. In such situation it is not necessary to neglect opinions of close people. Perhaps, to them the onlooker sees most of the game or they see the real face of the person as are not under the power of his charms.
4. Stop being themselves. In a pursuit of happiness many try to adjust themselves to parameters of an ideal which as they consider, is pleasant to all. At the same time they suppress the I. But long to hide the true personality all the same it will not turn out, sooner or later the partner should open. Therefore that there were no disappointments, it is better to be oneself.
5. Become pereborchivy. Having drawn itself in the head an ideal of the partner in life, many try to adjust other people to his parameters. It is wrong. All of us are different, ideal does not happen. If to you with the person well, comfortably, then you hardly you pay attention to any small defects in his appearance or character.

We recommend to you to learn how to understand: you love the person or it is attachment.

Search of the soulmate this occupation not of one day, month, and happens also years. If you are not lucky, then it is not necessary to despair. Work on yourself, act, but be not depressed at all and do not lower a hand. Perhaps, your destiny already is near and it was necessary to take the last step.