Gaining long-awaited handsome — just half-affairs: the real fight against various competitors and prejudices approaches ahead. After a rose and candy stage the majority of couples waits for many tests at which it is not simple to keep integrity of the relations at all. You learn from this article how to hold the man near yourself and whether it is worth doing it.
Whether it is worth holding the man
Leaving of the man is always ruthless blow to the fate of the woman and her feeling in the world. After understanding that loved by a row is not present the thrown woman undergoes rather serious stress and quite often falls into a long depression. For this reason desire to keep the man becomes frequent extremely strong nearby. However it is not always expedient.
It is known that after the long union not many men decide on the new relations. For the adult married man the family is an important part of the life therefore he dares to destroy it only under exceptional circumstances, having made the final decision. In that case attachment of the man to itself can badly end. Often it threatens with serious scandals — the man has no former feelings to the beloved any more, and her requirements only worsen the relations. Therefore before making the final decision, it is necessary to weigh all pros and cons well.
Before resolute attempt to hold the man it is necessary to be convinced of reciprocity of feelings. Often leaving can have the spontaneous, emotional decision as result of various problems or the saved-up negative so at the end of a difficult period there is a high probability of resumption of the strong relations. However the situation needs to be perceived soberly and objectively: the desirable outcome is possible not always. New romantic hobby, loss of sense in relationship or obvious incompatibility of characters have to guard and tell distinctly about the cancelled relations.
Whether you know? In Ancient Rome couple was considered as officially married after the first kiss therefore Romans treated this manifestation of love with special responsibility.
Effective ways how to hold the man near itself
Ladies try to hold the beloved sets of ways, however not all of them are really effective. Manipulation with tears at the same time have to recede into the background as it only aggravates a situation. Instead the soulmate should be awarded with attention and understanding.
To maintain its importance in the man
By the nature each man is a hunter and the conqueror - it is natural instincts which remained thanks to ancient ancestors. However in the modern world many women undertake a part of these functions, making important decisions independently. Though men often claim that it in no way does not affect their self-assessment, actually it subconsciously reduces their importance. In that case they lose faith in the demand and need.
It is not difficult to cope with this problem; the first that should be made, is to reconsider spheres of influence in family. The woman has to obey to the man, having shifted the main decisions and duties to his shoulders, to become weak and defenseless. After that any man will feel the importance. Against the background of it any competitor will undergo loss as nothing so gets to fall in love as the woman who gave all reins of government.
For this purpose it is necessary:
- to forget about criticism, especially among acquaintances or in the public place;
- to put any responsibility from the shoulders;
- to learn to admire the elect and his achievements;
- at all to forget about command phrases (You have to, You are obliged, I so told, etc.).
Not to overload with the attention
Often the attention surplus from the soulmate tires men. The strongest relations are observed at those couples where partners strive for proximity, at the same time without breaking personal space. Such unions often keep on the general values and freedom of action which is limited to trust. Therefore for the woman her beloved has to become the satellite on life, but not its sense.
If for you the man — all this, you do not be zealous, show the attention, but at the same time give it freedom. Find a new hobby or interesting occupation that will help to send surplus of free time to the useful course.
It is important! If you are not wanted to be devoted in men's affairs, do not insist as, most likely, they are really not interesting to you — however pay attention that it would be pleasant to you to participate in them. It will show your openness, softness and care which are important for the partner.
To trust
Trust — the main basis of strong and amicable coexistence. The mistrust in family undermines not only an emotional situation, but also desire for development of the relations. It is often shown by the disputes, reproaches, jealousy leading to emotional exhaustion. And it is the main reason which leads to disintegration of the union.
The openness and complete control over emotions will help to avoid it. Often the mistrust is result of diffidence and subconscious desire to be protected from the world around therefore disposal of complexes is considered the best method of the beginning of trusting relationship. Also the trust manages to be reached thanks to openness of each other. If you are familiar with all environment of your partner, all doubts and fears in a moment break.
The closeness is characteristic of some men, they can conduct days off independently, among the friends, however it is not a reason for suspicions. The personal liberty gives the chance to leave from ordinary problems and to receive moral relaxation that quite often is a basis of family success.
Important! Many men can have the understanding good and bad therefore for installation of trusting relationship it is necessary to place borders of acceptable.
Not to forget about a variety
Over time the passion dies away, it is succeeded by ordinary problems and simple vital needs. Sometimes the man can leave family in search of new bright impressions. Daily life destroys romanticism therefore not to remain one, the woman should create constantly to herself interest and to dilute life with new paints. Otherwise to it not to resist brighter and self-sufficient competitor.
For this purpose it is necessary:
- not to forget about self-development: nothing causes such attention as constantly improved personality;
- to do to darling small surprises and spontaneous courtesies;
- to diversify joint leisure and pastimes with new hobbies and interesting occupations;
- to turn each intimate proximity into a holiday, trying novelties and granting secret desires of darling.
To radiate joy
The family and the relations should not lack positive emotions, otherwise it subconsciously associates the house with unpleasant feelings. By the nature the person reaches for kind and light therefore communication with the woman always has to bring joy. The soulmate for it has to become sources of positive emotions and load with positive power. There is no wish to be near the sad and depressive person to anybody.
to become often difficult. First of all it is necessary to forget about favourite women's differences of mood, or at least to protect from them the partner. For this purpose it is necessary to deal with the personal problems independently, keeping emotions in itself. You have to understand clearly that slopping of saved up has to happen outdoors. Instead any manifestations of a negative and problem of the man should be undertaken, having become for him an outlet and a charge of positive energy.
It best of all will help to create conditions in order that the soulmate wanted to come back home regardless of mood. Besides, the positive and belief in the best will help to improve the relations with the elect's relatives, and the fortress of the relations in many respects depends on them.
Whether you know? The world famous concept Swedish family has nothing in common with a society organization of Swedes as they often adhere to very conservative views. There is this term only in the territory of the former USSR as result of various rumors about low moral foundations of the West.
To create comfort
The possibility of quiet and good rest strong ties a strong half of mankind to the house. By the nature most of men are not capable to create homeliness as throughout all existence of mankind women are engaged in it. For this purpose special knowledge and skills are not required.
So, after arrival home nourishing and hot food from which he will take true pleasure has to wait for the man. The woman in the house the hostess therefore cleaning always has to be behind it. And even if the man becomes the main reason of a mess, you should not saw it for it. Besides, the hostess constantly should improve welfare of the house — for this purpose it will be required to sate an interior with the various trifles creating a nice interior.
Councils of the psychologist
Today the problem of durability of the relations is a widespread subject which widely is discussed and rises many schools and the directions.
Most of them for strengthening of the relations and deduction of the man advise the following:
- be attractive always: regardless, houses you or on the street, your image has to radiate sexuality;
- become significant in the opinion of the man, always move forward and reach new tops;
- work on yourself — persons who seek to improve themselves, not only cause respect, but also attract;
- cause jealousy in the elect, he has to understand that the soulmate is a valuable treasure;
- flirt more often, it maintains romanticism;
- it is not necessary to do the man by the center of attention, the relations need to be built, putting efforts on both sides;
- you seek to cause respect in all environment of the elect;
- do not reveal yourself completely: in the woman always there has to be a small riddle, is capable to surprise;
- show respect for the elect — he your pride, but not property.
We advise to esteem how to forgive treason of the husband and to keep family.
The woman is responsible for climate and an emotional situation in family therefore often durability and the nature of the relations depends only on it. To hold near itself darling, the woman, first of all, has to refuse manipulation with the man and create for him in the house harmony and tranquility. Only it will help it to turn into a valuable gift of destiny which loss will be the major mistake in the elect's life.