Whether it is necessary to punish the child

Whether it is necessary to punish the child

Ideally obedient children are not, small pranks are attributes of any childhood. However many parents are puzzled with a question: whether it is worth punishing the child for offense? Many adult rules simply do not work at children.

Psychologists claim: physical punishment is inadmissible, it breaks mentality of the child for many years ahead. Shouts and antsy gestures only thin thread of the relations between parents and children, especially if mother shouts at the child publicly. To stand the child in the corner too not option - it is perceived as restriction of freedom. The more restrictions – the more sharply desire to win the opinion.

How to explain to the child that he is not right? Verbally, carefully being at loss for words. Here five main ways to control children's behavior without psychological and physical punishments:

1. Establish and discuss rules in advance. Going to shop, quietly repeat rules of conduct in shop. Play a game: "We in shop", having beaten a doll positive and bad points. Here the doll wants a new toy, fell to a floor and went into a hysterics. Ask the child: whether correctly the doll behaves? Consult on the child as if with the adult. Rules of conduct in house conditions need to be printed out large letters and to hang up on a foreground in the house.

2. We Are Interchanged the Position method. If the child is accustomed to fight, throw objects in the person, etc., it is necessary to put the child to the place of this person. Besides effortlessly. Ask: "When to you it is painful, you cry?". Explain that adults can control the tears, but it does not mean that from arrived in a face or a shoulder of a cube it is not sick. Draw cards (or find suitable pictures) when it is possible to fight, and when there is no. For example, it is possible to enter a fight, being protected. But it is impossible to fight just like that.

3. Skazkoterapiya. Think out fairy tales where the main character is called the same as your child, and he makes the same bad acts. Place emphasis on what is good and that is bad. It is possible to paraphrase already available fairy tales, having inserted suitable situations there.

4. Arrange once a week "Day of fun". Children's energy demands an exit, allow the child to splash out the collected aggression – beat an effigy from pillows, tear paper, loudly shout together somewhere outdoors, etc.

5. Magic Hours method. Take any hours with shooters. When the child made a bad act, explain why it is bad and suggest to play "Time machine" independently to correct a situation: turn arrows on a few hours ago, and let the child himself will find option of the correct behavior in a similar situation. Options can be a little, do not forget to put every time clock ago. It is possible to add a musical element as the sign of temporary movement.

Author: «MirrorInfo» Dream Team