The wife – the beauty, the clear head, the wonderful hostess, the sweetest creation, and the husband meets another. Familiar picture? The reasons of the events need to be looked for in the field of relationship of spouses, in science about soul – psychology.
Instruction
1. Choosing itself the wife, men, as well as women, seek to find a certain ideal which would meet their own expectations. At a love stage no shortcomings can stop desire to be together. And any councils, even from the closest people if are not perceived in bayonets, then are just ignored. The reason of the person is kind of disconnected. As result after a while the man sees before himself any more not an angel, not that ideal which it was not so long ago ready to carry on hands. Fully the principle of the family boat which crashed against life begins to work. Meeting the future spouse, the man sees the girl in a full fighting coloring, in the best clothes, rejoices opportunities to make something pleasant for it, etc. But after the wedding everything cardinally changes and how to make so that to avoid it, each woman knows if she a little thinks of it.
2. The mismatch of values of spouses is other main reason for a distance of the spouse. The wife, carrying out thousands of household chores, waits for the fact that the husband will carry out the. However often men consider that they know better when to perform any given task on economy. And desire of the wife to quicker put, for example, the apartment in order, perceive as infringement of the personal rights. Therefore three times the repeated request is perceived by them not as care of family, and as "a brain vyedaniye". It is not necessary to repeat three times the same request - it is much simpler to become "bore" and "saw", than to get rid of it. Just release a situation, perhaps, even wait week or two, but as a result you will leave feeling of own importance of the husband unaffected. That is you will remain in the opinion of the husband the woman who appreciates the husband above, than the screw which dropped out of a wall. Acting this way it is constant, you will be able truly to place priorities, then the husband begins to understand that the most important value for him are you. And desire to find someone is better at it will not arise.
3. The third one after another, but the most important is not "bed", but lack of psychological contact at all. Remember what at a stage of courting caused in both of you the greatest proximity. In case you could remember nothing, it happens very often, so serious work is necessary to you. Analyze hobbies of the husband and try to choose something the closest to you. And now it is necessary only to fall in love with it, and really. To an example, your husband does not miss any soccer match, and you perceive it as an unnecessary waste of time so far. At the same time to hatred soccer you do not test and even know what team is supported by your husband. Things are easy, sort out rules and buy also to the husband tickets for the match, most important in a season, for team which the husband supports. And several weeks of a honeymoon after the match are provided to you.