"Each couple has the right to establish the rules" — the heroine of typically female movie "Sex and the City" so told. As far as will they differ from the standard forms of relationship? And as far as will be accepted by society? The great number of psychologists tried to answer these questions.
About freedom and the relations
The free relations are perceived by the majority of couples as something progressive, unsteady, not credible. Couples fearing a routine and family life, the people refusing the long serious relations, experimenters or those who catastrophically lack personal space incline to such relations.
Such type of "love" is most preferable to many men. As by someone it was told, existence of other fork, and existence of a possibility of other fork" is important for them not ". At the same time, when the forbidden fruit stops being such tempting and inaccessible, that moves to the forefront only for the sake of which it is possible some degree of freedom and to neglect.
For women freedom in the relations is necessary not in itself, and for the sake of something certain: for the sake of forces on career, time for - darling, for the sake of self-affirmation by the number of the affected male hearts and you never know for what. Women, meeting so the man, are less persuasive, but also are more exacting. Who knows, who will get its attention in the next day/evening/month/year if today the elect does not surprise her with something pleasant at a meeting.
Free relations? Turn! I take!
The relations without promises, jealousy, requirements, whims, a sobstvennichestvo and hysterics. Without washing of the general ware on the common kitchen and "leaving, take out garbage". Without hair curlers and masks, without socks and beer. Ideally, isn't it? Yes, constant novelty and lack of a routine are so attractive in the free relations. They exclude dependence of partners from each other. They destroy time frames, anniversaries and expectations of the habitual scenario. Nobody should not nothing to anybody. It is possible to disperse at any time. But, if everything is so remarkable and easy why to disperse? It is an obvious exit for couples which need a respite. For aged people who are nice each other, but are not able any more and unwillingness to adapt, break the way of life under another. It is, perhaps, option for those who have the child and do not wish to injure it constant presence of foreign person. A pleasant condition is the trust, respect and still preference of the only thing. And when to someone in couple it is lonely, he or she all have to throw and support at a difficult moment.
Free relations? — I grazed
Such form of relationship nevertheless categorically does not suit the people seeking to make family and to give birth to the child. Inferiority from this party of a question is obvious. Such relations for those who are jealous and impulsive by the nature will be also very difficult test. And why to scoff at itself ignorance? Many do not accept excess freedom purely from the esthetic point of view, someone — from ethical. Someone is afraid of sidelong glances and misunderstanding of friends. It is also necessary to be in advance ready to fragility of such love, later it is all the same will develop into something bigger, it will want loved plechiko nearby. Consent to free the relation has to be accurately stated by both partners and all are thought carefully over pros and cons. You should not break the destiny if it is just a whim or attempt to hide unavailability to responsibility and true love.