Simple, but obligatory rules for successful education of your child. It is not as simple to observe them as it seems first. But it brings remarkable effect: it becomes much simpler to communicate with the child. Not to all parents it is allowed to understand intuitively how it is correct to bring up the child. Most of people should study this skill.
Instruction
1. Condemn specific action of the child, but not his personality in general. The child has to understand what he made not so, but not to feel bad or humiliated.
2. Your indignation should not concern feelings of the child whatever they were. Express discontent with any act or action of the child. Any person, including your child, has the right to have any feelings and emotions. If they arose, so were for this basis. Even if you think differently, this your opinion which should not violate the rights of the child for any experiences.
3. If you systematically criticize and condemn the child, then he perceives it as: "parents do not love me, do not accept". In this case the quantity of claims develops into quality, that is spoils your kind relations with the child.
4. Any education and the more so criticism have to be based on your good, respect with the child. Before now beginning to accuse the child of disrespect for you, think about yourself: and you always respect interests and feelings of the child? Begin to establish the kind relations from yourself; you are more adult, it is cleverer and therefore you begin to act.
5. If you feel that you do not accept the child, do not feel absolute (that is independent from any circumstances) love for it, then do not wait for effect of the educational measures. The child will only perceive then your pedagogical influences when he feels your love. At the same time your love should not depend on his behavior. For example, you feel rage because of its act, but, nevertheless, do not cease to love it at the same time. The true love loves not for something. Do not blackmail with love at all: "you will behave badly, I will not love you". Over time in reply you receive most too: "you do not give me some candy, you are bad mom, I do not love you".