Often we see how the child is mistaken, we see where and as it is necessary to make correctly. Usually we at once run to point to it, we try to help. But whether such help is so useful to education of diligence and independence of the child?
Instruction
1. Remember yourself at the age of your child. Try to present how it is difficult for it to master new action. It now, being already an adult, it is easy for you to tie laces, accurately is or to write beautifully. But remember how long you studied it. Consider – to your child hard. Respect work and efforts of the child.
2. It is not necessary to concentrate attention of the child on mistakes. Often the kid himself also perfectly sees them and knows. And from your remarks only will be upset or in general will refuse to perform this operation.
3. Remember that as a result of training the child not only masters concrete skill. Also he learns to cope with difficulties, derives pleasure (or on the contrary – negative emotions) from training process. Parents have to be guided not only by development by the child of action or skill, but also by other results of training: diligence and persistence of the child, your mutual mutual respect, etc.
4. Do not interfere with councils and offers of the help if you about it are not asked. When the child is with enthusiasm busy with something, he should not disturb. He will address you if he finds it necessary. When you stand aside, you broadcast to the child: "I believe that at you everything will turn out".
5. Make the list of affairs with which your child copes (with any given share of success). Take yourself for the principle never to interpose in this matter. At the same time estimate diligence of the child when performing these affairs, irrespective of result and quantity of mistakes. Over time expand this list. So you teach the child of independence and to diligence.