To accustom the child to responsibility, one of the most important tasks of parents. Councils how to accustom the teenager to responsibility.
Instruction
1. Begin to communicate with the teenager as equals, but not as with the child. He has to feel the adult that it is accepted as adult and consider his opinion. It is impossible to demand from the child of obedience more, to order and specify what to do. Discuss all questions quietly if you want to sweetheart the child try to agree with him.
2. Expand personal space for the teenager, at the same time having imposed on it more serious duties on the house. Reduce your help to a minimum, stop to sponsor the teenager in every possible way. Give it the chance most to solve the problems, to show sharpness, to attract to the aid friends. If the child does not cope and will call to the aid parents, only in that case act, but you should not do everything for the child at once, push him to the correct decision.
3. Leave to the child the right for a mistake. Only by trial and error he will be able to accumulate experience. You can create a situation in which mistakes will be the safest. Support the child when he meets the first serious difficulties and failures. Do not allow the child to lower hands, you learn that problems and troubles temper spirit.
4. Enjoy victories and progress together with the child. Even the most insignificant achievements are praiseworthy.
5. Perceive the teenager as person responsible. At each opportunity you speak about it to people around that the child heard how parents speak of him. He will try not to bring you, and to make everything to be worthy this status.
6. Do not hide from the child how many it is necessary money and how many to be spent for expenses for the teenager. He has to understand, see and appreciate that parents often limit themselves to satisfy all needs of the child. When children do not see a real picture, they do not estimate those efforts which spend the parent and quietly continue to ask, to demand to get things at the first desire. The child has to treat responsibly works of parents and in gratitude to try to become better and to try to upset never parents on trifles.
7. In advance agree that you will gradually cut down financial costs of the teenager. For example, by 18 years the child himself has to earn on pocket expenses.