Not all men agree with desire of the woman to get posterity. There is a variety of reasons on which the adult independent man is afraid of appearance of the small child, and it is necessary to understand them.
Instruction
1. The financial reason, more precisely - the level of security with means, insufficient according to the man. The lack of own housing and the car, small salary - all this generates in them fear to be financially helpless and not to manage to provide own family. It is clear, that it is caused by desire to give to the child all best. In this case it is necessary convince him that the child will be a sufficient incentive for improvement of material welfare. And also give an example from own life or people familiar to you, not all people are born in very wealthy families. It does not prevent them to grow clever, capable or just good people at all.
2. Other factor of fear - sense of responsibility, insufficient according to them. Not all men are morally ready to become fathers, some are overcome by doubts - whether they will be a good example for the child. It is the result of diffidence or feeling of an implementation failure. In this case tell it that to the child it is not important as whom his father works or what he is a person. The child loves parents from the moment of the birth. Remind him those feelings which he had to the father in the early childhood. For certain the joint campaign to the park, on fishing or at the sea was one of bright children's memoirs of your man.
3. Men are overcome by fear to share the woman with someone else, including with the child. On the nature the men are owners and subconsciously do not want they to pay them less attention. After the child's birth mother devotes all the time to it, and the man feels deprived. It is normalized over time, but the fear to be left without female attention and caress frightens the man. Also can disturb him that after the delivery the figure of the beloved will be not such as earlier. In this case he needs to promise that you will treat it still, and soon after the birth of the child you will be engaged in the figure and quickly restore former forms.
4. Many men consider that with the child's birth the free life comes to an end. There will be many duties and there will be no time for soccer, for friends or for a hobby. It is partly the truth, but try predpodnest this fact in other foreshortening. It is possible to go to soccer with the child, with pleasure explaining him the game course and to have at the same time huge satisfaction. With friends and their children it is possible to spend free time very productively. And the child can impart the love for a hobby and to be engaged in it in common. Anyway, appearance of the little man in the house will bring much more positive emotions and advantage. From the point of view of the man as beings rational, it will be a last straw for adoption of the correct decision.