Children who fully equal hopes of parents and always behave ideally does not exist, but even the quietest of them, reaching certain age, can behave just inadequately. The explanation for it is found long ago and received the name of crisis of three years which is difficult for worrying, but it is quite possible.
How to distinguish crisis of three years
Actually there is nothing difficult in it, just at some children it passes is more expressed, and at others is not present and in many respects it depends not only on character and habits, but also on internal temperament. This period is connected with jump of growth and formation of the personality as is closer to three the child finally realizes himself not a part of mom, and completely independent. The problem is only that where to direct this independence - still unclear.
In practice the crisis of three years is expressed in causeless obstinacy, scandals, hysterics during which the child tries to achieve the. They can be shown in any place and sometimes just in occasions, insignificant in terms of parents. Though the essence of behavioural denial consists even not in desire to receive something, and it is rather in the aspiration to move apart borders resolved and demonstrations of own point of view. Can undergo crisis as within one summer, and to last for the whole year.
You should not expect that the behavior of the child has to exchange exactly after his birthday. The time frames specified in the name of this crisis are conditional therefore it can happen both in 2.5 years and after 3.
How to overcome crisis of three years
It is not enough not only the nobility how to define crisis of three years, but also as to endure it. Sometimes parents consider that only they insufferably feel, and the child only makes all possible efforts for enraging them. Actually to him it is not less heavy as often senseless requirements and hysterics not that do not give relief, but also put it in obviously not an advantageous position. For each child it is necessary to look for the key. Some are helped by full ignoring of scandals though the similar way of behavior is not too convenient in public places whereas it is simpler to others to switch attention of the child to something other. Anyway, creative approach to a situation is only welcomed.
It is necessary to remember that in the presence of the choice of many scandals it is possible just to avoid, for example, having offered the child for lunch or soup, or a garnish with vegetables, but without trying to convince shout him to eat both.
What you should not do
At once it is possible to tell that the attempt to break behavior of the child the bans and punishments to anything does not conduct and only even more aggravates situation, fueling tension and making negative impact on fragile children's mentality. It does not mean that it is necessary to indulge whims, but also to try to find a way out, indicating the child that his opinion interests nobody, too it is incorrect.