One of the main parental tasks - education of the child. Being important aspect in development and spiritual prosperity of the child, it lays the foundation of vision by it itself and the relatives, its attitudes towards people, perceptions of the world around by it.
Instruction
1. Do not shift education of the child to other persons, especially when he still small. Only parents can make it successfully, but for this purpose they should bring up themselves, first of all. Be engaged in self-education, study pedagogical literature.
2. Avoid authoritative style in education of the child, do not imprison him, constantly dictating each step. At the same time, you do not trifle with education and it is careless. Connivance and permissiveness can do not smaller harm.
3. Hails and slaps will not bring benefit to your kid. The child, whose education was based from force position, gradually adopts the same behavior model and begins to behave aggressively with the peers, and then and with adults. And often, becoming the adult, he applies the same methods of education to own children.
4. If you are angry, do not break on the child, and try to be distracted by something another, leave the room. You will calm down and the situation will cease to seem terrible, and the child's oversight - irreparable.
5. Approximately in 2-3 years at the child the self-respect, the "I" which he is ready to defend develops. Try to lay the foundation of discipline and to train the child in elementary rules till this time. If you at first indulged him, and then suddenly became strict parents, it will cause in him feeling of a protest.
6. Do not establish too many bans for the child. Remember that rules and restrictions are necessary to strengthen safety of the child, but not to take away from him freedom. Follow the same rules which you offer him. It is impossible that parents had priorities, and at the child – the. Be consecutive. Throwing from one extreme to the other (today you resolved something, and tomorrow same forbade) will only do harm to the child.
7. Do not humiliate the child in the course of education, do not make it remarks and do not criticize in the presence of strangers.
8. Respect opinion of the child and his choice, do not impose on it the opinion. Of course, it has to concern questions which he can solve itself owing to age. For example, the kid can choose a jacket which he will put on in a kindergarten today, or a toy which he will take on walk.
9. Accustom the child to accuracy. Show him where your things lie. Explain that his clothes have to lie in a locker, and toys in a box. Put them together while the child is still small.
10. Encourage his desire to do something independently. When your kid for the first time tries to put on panties, suppress in yourself impatience and give it the chance to put on most even if it very long potters. Each time at it it will turn out best of all and best of all.
11. It is good if the child has the duty. Depending on age he can remove toys, walk with a dog, water flowers, put linen in the washing machine, etc. If he made something well, praise him that and further he wanted to help you.
12. Whatever busy person you were, choose during the day time which you devote only to the kid. No matter, whether there will be it walk, reading the book for the night, joint viewing the animated film or drawing. In days, free from work, try to compensate a lack of communication as much as possible. Sincerely be interested in affairs of the child, discuss his problems and you do not treat them haughtily. The little man has to be sure that he will be able always to address you for council and support.
13. Combine in education and softness and hardness. To bring up - does not mean to punish or resolve, and to understand needs of the growing child. In a difficult situation before scolding and forcing, try to convince him, to explain why something cannot be done.
14. Embrace the child more often, you say to him about how you love it as it is expensive to you no matter how he behaved. The child has to feel that you love his any: unlucky, not really talented, whimsical.
15. Try to create the favorable psychological atmosphere in the house. Quarrels and nervousness of parents will surely be reflected in feelings of the child. And, as a rule, the child who grew up in the atmosphere of love and mutual respect adapts rather to society when he grows up, and will be kinder and balanced.
16. Education of the person – very difficult work, and in it does not happen easy ways. Be the best positive example for the child, show the correct manner of behavior. Small children very much want to resemble mom and dad.