Most often parents remind the son that he is future man when the child cries. "Do not roar, men do not cry!" Can tell more offensively: "That you cry as the little girl!" As if all difference between boys and girls in ability to cry. As if the main task in education of the boy to teach him to constrain the emotions. In fact, the main thing in education of the boy is absolutely in another.
Instruction
1. The main ability for parents of the boy to learn to trust the son and to manage to express this trust to the child. The boy, that he grew up the worthy man, needs to say more often: "We believe in you!", "Try, at you everything will turn out!", "I know, you will be able to make it!" It is especially important to watch the level of the trust to the boy's mom. Desire to sponsor and preserve, so natural each mother, it is necessary to keep under strict control. Scheduling of affairs which the son can independently do can become good exercise for this purpose. Every day in this plan one new point has to appear at least. It is good if at the end of the day mom discusses with the boy how many affairs for today he made itself, without the aid of adults.
2. To bring up the man from the boy it is important to grow in him respect for women. Here the leading role is played by the father. If Ivanov Sr. is gallant, affable, kind and eloquent, then and Ivanov Jr. will adopt such behavior. And there will be it quickly enough. Already at the playground the "hereditary" attitude towards women will be visible.
3. The attitude towards family at the child will be created, proceeding from life of his parents. Therefore quarrels at the child should not be. It is necessary to seek to have a rest, spend more often together with each other more time. To learn to go on compromises. To appreciate each lived day.
4. Since the early childhood of the boy mom should think of the fact that she for the child not only mom, but also the closest female. What son will see the mother, seriously will affect on his attitude towards women. Therefore mom needs very much to try to be always in shape – well-groomed, tightened, beautiful. Any full of holes slipper and filthy dressing gowns. Mom – the main woman in life of any man – has to be beautiful always.
5. It is important to fill the boy's life with worthy role models. Choosing sports club for the child, parents need to get acquainted personally with trainers and teachers, to attend one-two classes. The teacher will be also a personal example. What will he teach to?
6. Grandfathers can give an important assignment to drive the grandson in the museums. Grandfathers are successful in a talk about heroic persons best of all from family. Except the museums the acquaintance to outstanding persons can be arranged by means of books and magazines.
7. The boy will face in life the ban more than once "it is impossible to cry". It is demanded by public opinion though the medicine recognizes as dangerous excessive and long control of emotions. Not to break laws of society and to keep health from the youth, it is necessary to teach the child to give vent to emotions another – except tears – way. For example, through sport, drawing or designing. There are whole techniques of "an exit of emotions". It is important to choose suitable for the child.