If you married the man with the family past, you should communicate also with his child. Not to pass for the spiteful stepmother who scoffs at the poor stepdaughter you will need to have patience and to try to improve the relations with the husband's daughter.
Instruction
1. Do not try to become the girl the second mother at once. Communicate exactly and friendly. Learn, than the child is fond. Buy as a gift book or a thing concerning the girl's hobby.
2. You spend time together: you go to movie theater, to a skating rink, walk in the park. Unostentatiously involve the stepdaughter in household chores. Make together a festive dinner or be engaged in change of window plants.
3. Communicate with the girl, sincerely be interested in her life, study and hobbies. But if you see that it is heavy and unpleasant to child to talk to you, be not upset. Many children very jealously treat the new choice of the father, and some frankly are rude and do not love the new father's wife as they consider her family, guilty of disorder. Be quiet and benevolent, over time you will get used to each other, and can even make friends.
4. You should not cajole the stepdaughter gifts, otherwise her attitude towards you can become consumer. In the house you the hostess also establish the rules. There is nothing bad if you make a remark to the child, but you should not be fond excessively of education of the girl, it is a duty of her native parents. Another matter if the child lives with you. In this case you should take "reins of government" in hand. But you remember that if the stepdaughter was guilty, punishment always has to proceed from the real parent. Act not with shouts, complaints and reproaches, but a talk and a personal example.
5. The situation in family can become more intense with the advent of the new child. The stepdaughter can feel superfluous and unnecessary. Do not allow jealousy and embitternment from the girl, involve it in care for the baby and in every possible way emphasize that you are one family.
6. You have to remember that building relations in new family usually takes 1.5-2 years. It is long and difficult process, but in process of the growing the girl will estimate your patience and the attitude, good to it.