In society it is considered to be girls fragile and trebushchy beings of protection. This stereotype in education leads to the fact that, becoming adults, women do not feel confidence in the forces, avoid to take the responsibility and get to the sozavisimy and abyyuzivny relations.
How to grow up girls courageous?
To grow up girls courageous, encourage in them aspiration
- to leave a comfort zone (you teach girls as well as boys, to undertake more difficult tasks, not to be afraid to set to itself more difficult and ambitious purposes even if first it will not be possible to reach them);
- to rely on the firmness (courage, courage, firmness, ability to take out difficulties is qualities which will be useful in adulthood of the person of any gender and a gender);
- to be self-assured (the belief in the forces, abilities, abilities, mind, dexterity, resourcefulness and other strong qualities is vital to all people).
How do bring up boys and girls?
Investigated found out that at the playground with other things being equal parents state more often the cautions and appeals to be careful to girls, in comparison with boys. The daughters the parents watch stronger, than sons. Boys are encouraged to active physical games, insured less, suggest to overcome obstacles, to train ability to effort and not to be given.
Speaking to the daughters ""Be careful!" ", " "Do not fall!" ", " "Carefully!" ", " "More accurately, you are a girl!"" - what message we it bear? That girls are fragile and need the help, are not capable to cope with a difficult task, are not capable to orient in a situation and to independently check the actions that they have to be afraid and afraid. While boys receive other message: be independent, undertake difficult tasks and cope with them, be brave.
However to teenage age the boys and girls not too differ from each other on physical development. Moreover, girls stronger and developed. But adults behave as if girls are weaker and cannot cope with much. Warning since childhood of girls against dangers, we raise their timid and helpless.
The girl who is brought up with such messages, growing:
- is afraid to express the opinion,
- prefers to be convenient to be pleasant to others,
- does not test confidence in the of the decision.
It is difficult to be courageous with such set of experiences. How to change it? How to grow up girls courageous?
What to do to grow up girls courageous?
The first. It is necessary since childhood as well as boys, to support and encourage (but not to straighten out and warn) girls in their aspiration to physical activity: to ride a skeyborda, to climb trees, to play in sports grounds with apparatuses. Such type of a game is called ""a risk game"". Such game teaches both boys, and girls to estimate danger, to count the forces, patiently to wait for success, not to be given, be flexible in the behavior and self-assured. Playing ""risk games"", children train courage, ability to be brave and to follow the purposes, despite fear.
The second. It is necessary to cease to warn and warn girls about all dangers in the world. Instead of ""More carefully, it is dangerous!"" tell the daughter: ""Give, you will cope!"". Instead of ""Depart, it is dangerous!" "tell" "Try!"". When you warn the daughter, you speak to her that she should not try and that it is insufficiently good that at it it turned out and that she has to be afraid. Would you that in adulthood she held such opinion on herself like?
The third. Train the courage in your real life situations. You learn to defend the opinion, to resist to the influences destroying you, take courage and start talking to those who really admire you. Train courage of the house, at work, in public places. We cannot teach our children to what we do not own.
Conclusion
When your daughter costs with bicycle at top of the steep hill or wants to climb on an abrupt high ladder at the playground, it is not this hill or a ladder. The fact is that before it all her life in which there will be difficulties too lies. And it has to have tools to overcome them when you are not near and when you are not able to secure, protect it or to make something instead of it. And then it will be helped by her own courage.