How men and women complained of boredom and monotony, being afraid as fire, a terrible verdict "it is not love, but a habit", psychologists nevertheless claim: the relations based on a habit – not the worst option. To understand the main thing – a habit to a habit discord.
Good habit
Sexologists and psychologists are similar in opinions: after some time the love loses the paints, fire of passion cannot burn eternally. Each couple is individual therefore everyone endures the crisis period of fading in own way: someone does not maintain and leaves, others – continue to live with each other. The second option is possible only when both got used to volume good that is in their relations, and nobody is ready to refuse habitual comfort. Not for nothing say that to good quickly get used. Therefore that the man got used to the woman quicker, she has to cause in him the maximum number of positive associations.
The first what it is worth paying attention to, is, of course, life. It is soft to have a sleep, eat well, clean to put on – primary needs of the normal man. He will quickly get used that there is someone who gives it the chance to forget about a problem of the second sock, dirty pans and the hung-up mouse in the fridge.
Secondly, the man has to get used to come back to the cozy house where are always glad to him and do not meet with one hundred claims at a threshold. During mass emancipation when every second girl acquires the book rather "How to become the bitch", than "How to become the good wife", the women able to create the atmosphere of "the house fortress", men appreciate worth its weight in gold.
What it is worth being afraid of
Constantly being engaged in the organization of comfortable living conditions of darling, the woman risks very much. First of all, devoting all itself to it, she will wait from it for constant expression of gratitude. This, some kind of, a trap because the man thinks of a bit different categories. The person does not admire every day an opportunity to breathe or go. The same and here. To the man organized life – it is also natural. Therefore the woman should not take offense at lack of everyday laudatory odes in the address, it is better to learn to derive pleasure from process. She also lives in this house and eats the same food, so does it not only for it. To be fair It is necessary to tell that, having even become the ideal hostess who does not sport on the house in an old pajamas, and looks tidily and seductively, the woman is not insured from parting with the beloved. There can always be that which will more tasty prepare more warmly than signs, besides, in a bed with it everything will be interesting and it is a new experience. But there is something else, than men very much value, is a friendship. For the sake of new extreme feelings he, most likely, will be able to throw the well-groomed woman and the good hostess, but will hardly offer the best friend and the colleague. The woman will be necessary for the man as air if shares its interests, will manage to become it the grateful listener interesting by the interlocutor, reliable support, remaining at the same time always a little bit self-sufficient and independent.