Each of us faces a self-defense problem since small years, there is always someone who is weak, and there is someone who uses the force. In kindergarten all this is considerably harmless: children's aggression is shown in impulsive desire someone to bite, to push, take away a toy. And here when the grown-up child goes to school, here it is necessary to face more dangerous form of children's aggression when children purposefully begin to exhaust someone who was not pleasant to them. For this reason it is important to teach to stand for itself at preschool age.
Instruction
1. If you learned that your child is offended at school, then it is necessary to protect him. Of course, this protection should not come down to "swing of the rights", but also to leave the child to deal with his problems independently is, at least, a treachery. And adults not always solve the problems with offenders. We attract for this purpose law enforcement agencies – we go to police or to court.
2. His withdrawal from an aggressive environment becomes frequent a solution of the problem of the child. It is quite possible that in that educational institution where there is your child, unhealthy orders really reign. Then the only option in this case is to transfer it to other school or a garden.
3. If problems at the child arise everywhere, then it is necessary to think whether there is he the reason of own troubles. Perhaps, he just provokes fighters. "Splinters" at first are lifted up, and then run to complain. In this case, it is necessary to explain popularly to the son or the daughter that it is necessary to learn to get on with those who surround him / her: it is not necessary to envy, speak maliciously, take offense, to demand execution of the whims. It is worth treating, on the contrary, others with goodwill.
4. There are also return situations. If you often notice that the child willingly shares the toys with other kids if in a sandbox he plays only one toy, and all others took away from him – do not hurry to demand that it took away the toys from offenders. Actually, such behavior of the child says that, first, he grows in friendly family that in itself is good, and secondly, your kid – the little wise man, we can not always see, how thinly our children can count the strategy of the behavior. In a word, not always what we consider aggression in relation to the child offends him so and to interfere in such cases and to force the kid to stand for itself is not necessary.
5. If you see what in relation to your peacefully playing child is shown constantly, then support him and teach to show that such behavior is not really pleasant to him. So, having told few times an aggressor "At us nobody pushes with each other, it is very ugly. Do not play with those who fight", you will notice that your child will begin to use similar phrases. Usually, when aggressive children are excluded from a game, they gradually cease to show aggression. You teach the child to be flexible: show how to transfer a game to the safe course.
6. If not to appease an aggressor in any way – show easy, but effective ways to appease him physically: to pinch. Only let know to the kid that it is a last resort.
7. And in conclusion of some more councils: - Do not inspire that a fight – unambiguously bad phenomenon. The child does not want to be bad, so he will always lose in a fight; - Do not control it completely. If you solve all conflicts for it, then he will not learn to stand for himself; - Give to the child the chance to communicate with many children. Being in different children's collectives, he will quicker learn to resolve the conflicts; - Cultivate confidence in Sebha in the child, you praise more often, you treat him as to the adult; - Play with it sketches in which different conflicting parties participate; - You teach it to protect weaker. Often the bravery appears in fight for someone, but not for itself; - Help it to master some methods of self-defense, and you will be helped with it by children's sports sections.