The child always speaks "no": how to resist to this phrase

The child always speaks "no": how to resist to this phrase

Put on a jacket, go to sleep, you eat: on each of these offers the answer of the little tyrant always "no". But it is possible to cope with opposition of the child.

 It is a tiresome oppositional phase of development of children when it seems that the only answer which they know consists only of two letters. Whether there is a way to overcome this period without damages?

Phase "no" at children

 You begin to understand how to define this phase of eternal not contents. It is the major step in growth of the child as persons. It is the moment when your child realizes that it is more, than his mother that he on itself(himself). Thus, this stage even if it is tiresome, is fundamental to determination of its identity: you have to face and operate with it it, but not deny. The child should not be accused: he establishes the way of life.

 Behind these constant  whims there are motives. The child lives as the researcher in the unknown country: he sees the world with own eyes, but emotionally and informatively does not understand it. Therefore he moves a trial and error method, investigates limits and sees how far it can come. He feels emotions, but does not know, what is it, and tries to express them as can.     

Keep calm

 What should I do? Experts suggest to try to keep as much as possible calm, but not to increase tone of a voice if it is not strictly necessary and very firm: the good costs more than one thousand shouts. It is clear, that it is very easy to tell all this, and more difficult to make, but sometimes it is required very little to try to understand and listen to your child: to stop, recover the breath and go forward. There is no magic answer which approaches all cases.     

Review several examples      

 More simply to understand a subject, it is worth getting acquainted with concrete examples:     

"I do not want to put on a coat before an exit!"

  In this case the parent has to explain usefulness of warm clothes and give to the child the choice between two different jackets. Nevermore two because differently it confuses: the choice is difficult for children.

"I do not want to eat!"       

 The problem of food is a certain world: it is possible to refuse food if the kid badly feels, is in a fever or ate too much before. The refusal can be relevant during the meal: you can be engaged in cooking together, ask to set it the table.

"I do not want to go to sleep!"

 To cope with this problem, you have to estimate the moment when there is a refusal: in September when lessons at school renew? On the occasion of the birth of the little brother? The parent has to try to understand the reasons for which the child does not want to sleep and to express them by the own words and also to find possible alternatives. 

Author: «MirrorInfo» Dream Team