Parents quite often face children's fears. You should not underestimate their influence, some of them can leave a mark for the rest of life. The task of parents is to give emotional support to the child and to try to dispel his alarms.
Types of children's fears
The most widespread types of children's fears: fear of darkness, real or fictional monsters, certain animals, fear of death, physical pain or parental punishment. There is a set of the causes of similar problems. The most frequent factor is the concrete stressful situation endured by it (got lost, fought, the dog bit).
Often responsible for children's fears are parents. Intimidation by militiamen, nonexistent monsters (babayka) and inevitable punishment is postponed in memory of the child and results in uneasiness and persuasive fears. The conflicts with peers, problems and violence in family are one more common causes of children's fears.
The rich imagination and children's imaginations can also create fear at the child. Monsters in a case and under the bed, villains from animated films and computer games – examples of similar fears.
How to overcome children's fears
You do not shame and do not deride the child. A quiet conversation and discussion of a situation – the correct method in fight against children's fears. Find out what the kid specifically is afraid of, let he will in detail tell you about the alarms. Listen to him, share the experience on overcoming fears, prompt to the kid a way out.
Be engaged in all-round development of the child. Children are afraid unknown and obscure therefore, than the child will be osvedomlenny, that less at him will be reasons for alarm. There are good exercises on overcoming fears by means of the drawing. Ask the child to draw the fear or draw it together. Then burn or tear the drawing on small parts and you will throw out it in a refuse chute, thereby symbolizing destruction of alarms. If the kid is afraid of the fantastic monster, let near him will draw himself in the form of the superhero defeating the villain. The favorable atmosphere in family plays a large role in fight against children's fears. It is necessary to exclude from the child's life any violence, scandals and disagreements in the relations between parents, intolerance to shortcomings and weaknesses of the kid. Fill life of the kid with the joyful and interesting moments (excursions, walks, visit of circus), organize a family holiday. Communicate with the child more often, give him feeling of love, care, tranquility and reliability. If the child has a fear of concrete events or people, explain that in life it is improbable. Just in case think up together the action plan that the kid again to feel in safety. Instill confidence in the child that it is possible to cope with the majority of fears easily. In difficult cases ask for the help the psychologist.