Happens that many simple (in your opinion) the child refuses to do things. It becomes the cause of not palatable conflicts between you. How to force the child to do obligatory household chores? How to fight against disobedience of the child? How to overcome his obstinacy?
Instruction
1. For a start sort out reasons for refusal of the child of a particular case. Perhaps, you overestimated simplicity of this business for it. For example, the kid did not remember the sequence of actions when clothing yet. In that case start performing over again this operation together with the child, but do not demand from it independence.
2. Other possible reason of disobedience is in your relationship. For example, the teenager can refuse to tidy up the things from protest moods. So he tries to defend the opinion, does not allow parents "to defeat himself". At first you have to adjust warm and respect with the child, and already then to demand from him obedience. At the spoiled child parental relationship it is insufficiently simple to change a way of education or impact on the child. It will not have effect. At first relationship and mutual understanding, and then already education. First of all, change the tone of communication with the child to friendly. Orders and the guides – not the best way to improve the relations.
3. Communicate with the child as equals. The more you will press on him, the more he will have a desire to persist in the return. If it is very difficult to you to keep equal tone of communication with the child, then it is better to address the psychologist and to analyze the reason of such difficulties. Why it is constant to you to prove to the child the authority, to be over it? It is better to think of these questions seriously.
4. Use notes and other means of a reminder for the child. Your note on the fridge is not such reason for the conflicts as constant reminders aloud. By means of such notes and drawings it is possible and to help the child to remember as as it is necessary to do. For example, on a special board it is possible to sketch things in that sequence in which the kid needs to dress them.
5. Excessive care and participation of parents in the child's life can become the cause of the conflicts and disobedience too. It is not necessary to run desires of the child forward, let he at first will want, and already then you will look for a way of satisfaction of this desire. Whether really your child wanted to visit section of swimming or you drew it for satisfaction of the unrealized ambitions? Be sensitive to the interests of the child. Then it will be less conflicts. If the child himself wanted to do something, then you should not make efforts that to force it.
6. Allow the child to face negative consequences of the actions and to be responsible for them. If the child badly gets up in the morning in school, allow it "to oversleep" and be late for a lesson. Let the teacher will abuse him. If the child himself made a choice not to rise on the alarm clock, then he receives consequences. And if you undertake responsibility, then you will always be guilty too.