When children refuse to listen and satisfy requests of seniors, parents feel discomfort. They have a feeling as if competitions in pulling of a rope erupt. Both the child, and parents delay it identical commitment on themselves. As a result each party fails.
Mothers and fathers experience indignation when their offsprings show disobedience. But parents realize not every time that the neglect authorities is an indispensable condition for formation since childhood at the person of confidence in own forces. That the kid sincerely believed in himself and found qualities of the independent person, he needs to realize the main thing. Leaders whom he implicitly followed before are not those any more. And he in something is cleverer than them.
If he managed to bypass mom and dad who were for it the most authoritative people, he will find forces to bypass anyone! Such idiom registers in subconsciousness of children. The little revolutionary who rose against the bothered family mode is future leader. It accepted good "dose" of confidence in own competence, and will never be able "to get down" from it.
The belief in the forces is formed in teenagers thanks to skill of decision-making. Children should understand that life is a consequence of their own choice and circumstances in which it became. The choice gives forces, and an opportunity to make it considerably reduces stress level at children. Also it is more productive, than coercion.
Why teenagers are disobedient?
Parents who cannot allocate more time for communication with the offspring are the reason. The chaotic way of life does not leave an opportunity to mom and dad to pay attention to the child, to debate with it. The adult it is necessary that he obeyed just a moment as they are too busy with the solution of own problems. Children can not always change very quickly. Sometimes disobedience is temporary reaction of teenagers to change of the current situation. It can be moving, change of school, a divorce of seniors or puberty. It is necessary to give to children time to recover.
How to experience awkward age of the child without stresses?
For parents this period is a difficult stage. They mistakenly believe that their role as the chief defender is modified in a root, and they will not be able to fulfill the main purpose. And then mothers and fathers begin to feel as undesirable characters in life of children. Adults note that they are allowed before adoption of the important decisions concerning the child more and more seldom. And in their consciousness it turns into the present tragedy. Parents miss an essence: all of them are still necessary to the offspring, but during such period they should be discharged and organize for it personal space that that had an opportunity to grow mentally balanced, full-fledged and complete personality.