Divorce proceedings practically always reminds war. Only from a zone of this fighting nobody comes out the winner. Even, if there were all prerequisites for its beginning, cold and misunderstanding reigns in family, consequences will be destructive. Both the family, and friends, and, first of all, children can suffer. The conflicting parties should remember it and to conduct process with the coldest head to minimize harm from a divorce. To zero it will not turn out.
Losses
The most insignificant losses which you will suffer at divorce proceedings will turn out material. Let at the section of property you will lose the apartment or a part it, will be left without giving and the car, but you will have a chance to earn funds for purchase of new things. The section of property – it is not so terrible that you already lost love.
At a divorce you lose good reputation and get bad. Will gossip about you anyway. In attempt to find to itself couple you will encounter a logical question: "Why you got divorced from the husband/wife?" To women the society is more cruel. Remember how call the divorced women – a broshenka, the divorcee, etc. Too treat the divorced men suspiciously. There is a number of questions: "What is with it not so? Bill wife? Changed? Impotent man? Why?"
At the beginning after the divorce you will feel close attention to yourself, pity, condemnation, disapproval, scepticism, etc. People who say: "Wow! Yes you are good fellows that divorced!", lie. And, believe, they do it of pity, allegedly, from friendly solidarity. Remember, maybe, they constantly interfered with your family life, took away you in a bath with girls/boys, to drink beer, etc. As a result of your rough divorce proceedings can quarrel and your parents who were on friendly terms before, together went to the dacha, on fishing, to the forest for mushrooms, sat in turn with your children. And how you are going to divide mutual friends? The one who did not take your position instantly is included in the conditional list of enemies. Which disorder of marriage will be children's losses, God only knows. In series "Doctor House" the ingenious diagnostician sociopath says a phrase: "All of us are spoiled by parents". He is right. Perhaps, in a week after the divorce you will not see anything strange in behavior of the child. Be not under a delusion, better beforehand connect the psychologist to talk to the kid. To you not leisure now. It is clear, war takes away almost all the time. Someone from parents, most likely the one who left family in a decade will not be able to communicate with the child. The contact will not be, it grew without your participation. Alimony is not considered. Though the scenario can be another when gets, on the contrary, to the trustee, he will be accused of disintegration of the family state. It occurs when Sunday father/mother load with presents the child gifts, and the one who constantly lives with the child limits him in the educational purposes. If you have new partners how they will treat the child? It is good if in an adult way, without baby talk and without groundless cavils. However most often your new soulmates will be indifferent and indifferent. There can theoretically be new children. As well as what then? It is good when feelings of spouses cooled down long before divorce proceedings, and cooled down from that and other party. And, if is not present? For this purpose, who was exempted from the hated spouse, everything will be rather great. The left party it will be necessary to live with the sense of guilt broken by heart. Often people break and begin to do alcohol and drugs as anesthetic.
Light party
If your divorce proceedings was preceded by a beating, humiliations, sadistic tricks of the spouse/spouse, you were lucky that everything ended. The divorce is happiness, and its consequences the most favorable. You have to have a purpose, in together with it and self-confidence, chance to live freely and happily. Freedom. This word excites and attracts. To feel free it is remarkable – it is possible to travel, implement business plans and creative projects. Perfectly, if, of course, "freedom" - not a synonym "loneliness".