Family life not always passes smoothly, in it there are small quickly forgotten quarrels and the serious conflicts from which the divorce happens an exit most often. Psychologists assure that there are periods of family crises which are conditionally falling on 1, 3, 5, 7 and 14 marriage. These crises overtake all married couples, and depends only on spouses: they will be able to overcome them or not.
The first year. The married couple only appeared, they should learn and open a lot of new in each other. The first year of marriage is a year of grinding in. Here the ability in something is important to make concessions for the sake of another and to be ready to change of the habitual way of life. Only the ability to reach compromise and readiness to accept the partner present, but not to try to remake it under itself – will be guarantee of successful overcoming crisis in the first year of marriage.
The third year. The main conflicts arise because of appearance of the child and also new efforts and the purposes. All attention of the woman is directed to the child that can oppress the man. From it increase in a family income is expected. In intimate life there can come the break. All this and many small everyday disorders lead to the big conflict.
Outright communication between spouses will become recovery from the crisis and attempts to parents together to take part in education of the child.
The fifth year. During this period of the woman usually leave the decree. The majority of problems is connected with their readiness and ability to combine roles of the wife, mother and already working woman. For many it appears a big stress and if the husband does not give due support – there is a family conflict.
Special attention and support from the husband will become the decision. Readiness of the spouse and other relatives to help on baby sitting.
The seventh year. The period when marriage becomes boring and routine. Many begin to doubt that something is felt to the second half. The monotony gets even into intimate life therefore quite often there are adulteries.
Updating of the life and avoiding of a routine will save situation.
The fourteenth year. After so many years of marriage the people completely get used to each other. But this period often is the share of crisis of middle age. Besides at this time children can enter in transitional the teenage period. All this can lead to the huge family conflict.
Understanding of current situation and search of a compromise will become an exit. The main thing here to remember all good that happened over fourteen years of marriage and desire to keep what is available now.