It is good when "weather in the house" solar and clear. The closest people will always support at a difficult moment by both a word, and business, they can always let into the secrets, with them it is possible to have fun, and it is possible to pogrustit. Whatever occurred in the world, in your life there is one invariable constant - it is your family. Unfortunately, sometimes in the relations, even between the closest people, arise difficulty and misunderstanding. How, in case of quarrels to return good relations and to adjust the world in family?
- Understanding of a position of other person;
- constructive conversation.
1. Any conflict including family, will accrue if to add fuel to the fire. Therefore, first of all, consciously stop conducting "military operations". To adjust the world in family, do also without open opposition, and without hidden "pakostnichestvo".
2. Any conflict arises because of collision of interests or a different view on a situation. Therefore, without shouts and abuse, designate everyone the vision of the situation, the problems and wishes. Important to designate wishes, but not to make a claim. Discussing the created situation, you do not become personal. Criticize actions, but not the person and also not his personal qualities. To adjust the world in family, criticizing personal qualities of family members, and stating claims, it will be very difficult if it is not impossible.
3. Having designated the wishes, you pass directly to a solution. There are two constructive ways for permission of any conflict - it is cooperation and a compromise. It is possible to compromise if all family members whose interests are infringed in the conflict, agree to reciprocal concessions. Important, it is not simple to agree, but also to make real actions, adhering to the reached agreements. Cooperation is considered the most favorable way of permission of any conflict including family. Such strategy promotes full satisfaction of interests of conflicting parties. Adhering to this strategy, think what all interested parties can make to resolve a situation.
4. In any conflict including family, try to put yourself to the place of other person. Try to understand motives of behavior of other person, his emotion and vision of the situation. To adjust the world in family, express the understanding of its feelings, his behavior and also requirements. When the person sees that another understands his problem, he cooperates also a compromise easier. Do not try to put yourself or the interests are higher, than the interests of other person. Be as equals.