The rare family does without the conflict of "fathers and children", the senior and younger generations. Sometimes it seems to teenagers that mother and the father forgot, as once were at such age, and parents, on the contrary, remember all dangers trapping them and try to save children. How to find a common language and to agree with parents?
Instruction
1. Do not try to resolve an issue by means of the caustic phrases thrown because of a shoulder, reproaches, evil irony. Only the conversation discussion in which parents and the teenage child participate will help.
2. Choose the suitable place and time for a conversation. The conversation can be begun if nobody was tired, does not hurry on affairs and all are ready amicably. Ask parents to find for you time and to listen to you, to discuss a situation or a problem. Behave validly, let parents know that this conversation is important for you and moves you not only desire to state the point of view, but also the aspiration to hear their arguments.
3. At first depict a situation what it seems to you. Then ask to express parents. Discuss in what your points of view coincide and where there is a conflict grain.
4. Suggest parents to think together over a compromise which would suit both you, and them. For example, if parents do not allow you to come back home late, and you want to descend on a disco, the option at which you go on a disco, but you undertake the obligation to return precisely in due time can arrange both parties. At the same time in addition promise not to switch-off the cell phone and if did not hear and missed a call, to call back to parents within half an hour.
5. Remember that parents clash with you not because attempt upon your independence. The reason is that they worry for your safety. If you want to solve any situation in own favor, think over what guarantees of the safety you can provide to parents.
6. Never violate promises. If told that you will come back home not later than one o'clock in the morning, be in time in time. If promised to call back within half an hour - regularly check phone. Over time parents will get used that it is possible to rely on your word, and will easier agree with them.
7. Assure parents that you will not use the provided freedom to get addictions and to strike up dangerous acquaintances. At any opportunity state such views to others in the presence of parents, and of course, as always, you keep the word.