The rare family can boast of the cloudless relations throughout all matrimonial life. Reasons for small quarrels, and even the large conflicts, arise even between really loving people from time to time. It is reality, and from family disorders nobody is insured. The main thing as soon as possible to find ways for reconciliation.
Instruction
1. At a showdown you give only those arguments which were the reason for the conflict in this situation. It is not necessary to remember the previous faults of the second half. For example, if irritates you that your spouse too loudly unmuted at the TV, so directly and tell about it. You should not generalize: "You do everything to me on the evil, today the TV shouts at all power, and the day before yesterday you did not take out garbage in time!" Such statements will not lead to anything good but only will add oils to a flame of the erupting conflict.
2. Never you become personal. Loudly turned on TV – not an occasion to accuse the darling that it rough, selfish, inattentive. Do not mention in analysis of the cause of conflict of the family of the second half. "You turn on loudly the TV because your mother badly brought up you!" Such phrase is no good at all and can be the cause for the long nursed grievance in soul of your soulmate.
3. In the best way not to allow the conflict in a similar situation, with deep arguments to explain to other person why his actions to you not to liking. "Darling, lower, please, a TV sound. I want to fall asleep (to esteem, work, etc.), and it very much disturbs me". Your spouse will hardly be able to refuse a polite request, and the reason for a quarrel will not arise. The best way to avoid the conflicts is not to give a reason for their emergence. Politeness and mutual respect – a basis of strong family.