Process of growing of girls begins much earlier, than at boys. Therefore they begin to show interest in an opposite sex earlier and is frequent, without seeing response, do not understand what to them to do next.
In this article you learn what needs to be done that the guy paid attention to the girl, and it was pleasant to it.
Why it is important for girls?
Approximately in 11 years the girls have first hormonal changes — monthly begin. At this age or in a year, in 12 years, they have a formation of mammary glands. Under the influence of these hormonal reorganizations of the girl gradually begin to realize that they become women and need male attention.
Interest from an opposite sex helps to support the normal course of psychophysiological process at young young ladies. It does not give the chance to develop to complexes, concerning appearance and allows to experience all difficulties of awkward age easier. Also the attention from men raises a social self-assessment of the girl. Having been sure that she is attractive to someone, it will become easier for it to accustom to new collective that is very important at more advanced age.
Communication with boys helps girls to make out with persons unclear before, with the mysterious hobbies, interesting interlocutors and quite good partners in any affairs. Experience in this communication will help already mature ladies to build correctly relationship with male colleagues and the spouse.
Whether you know? Scientists established that the average person seven times falls in love before when he meets the soulmate and will issue with her officially the relations.
Very often at school of the girl meet the first love. It can remain for the rest of life or will last not for long, but to leave pleasant memories of compliments, courtings, attention which will allow it not to become flustered when she tests the same again, but already at mature age.
Quite often because process of growing at girls occurs earlier, they pay attention not to peers, and to seniors. Of course, it is possible to be pleasant to the senior boys not everyone, but in the aspiration to win heart of an idol they achieve considerable success in study or sport as much as possible to correspond to the passion.
Whether it is possible to draw attention of the guy who does not notice you?
Such phenomenon as unrequited love, quite often meets at early age, though not a rarity in more senior, but brings more disappointments and concerns. The young girl quite often switches all the attention to subject to lamentation, at all forgetting about study. But it is wrong. To achieve attention of any guy it is necessary to analyze the guy as the personality and to understand what interests him that disturbs. Then the barrier of inaccessibility can be broken easily.
Advice to girls is younger
In fight for attention of an object it is necessary to rely only on the forces. Kind of there was no wish to discuss a problem with girlfriends, it is better not to do it as there is a probability that to someone from them to liking your elect, and they will not give a practical advice.
It is important! If the young lady is afraid to take the first step and needs council, then will better address for it mother or elder sister.
There are some recommendations:
- Worthy look. At early age to use cosmetics still rather early therefore all attention needs to be concentrated on clothes, a hairstyle and accessories. Always it is necessary to look accurately, tidily. To decorate a hairstyle with hairpins, bows. To supplement clothes with accessories of type of bracelets, badges.
- It is natural to behave. If the elect likes outdoor games, it is possible to participate in them. With the meek creature it is possible to divide his interest in some business. But it is not necessary to be imposed and show at the same time the interest the guy.
- Will turn into the good listener. Many boys like to tell about the hobbies. It will be quite good if it turns out to learn a little more about hobby of the elect that there was an opportunity to keep up the conversation.
- Not to turn the elect into the girlfriend. If there is a strong wish to chat with the guy, then it is not necessary to speak with him about fashion and to throw out on him a heap of the secrets. It is better to talk about study and to ask it to help to deal with some subject.
- To be always cheerful, cheerful. Crybabies are pleasant to nobody. Even if was traumatized, it is necessary to collect all will in a fist and to try to translate everything for fun.
- To try to help, whenever possible, the elect. It can be the solution of a task, the necessary book which can be lent or other, not less important subject.
- More often to praise the boy. Only it is necessary to do it so that did not look as flattery.
Practical recommendations to girls are more senior
More adult girls, at the age of 13-14 years are also more senior also can take the advice given for more young princesses, but there are also more efficient recommendations:
- It also has to be tidy, but can be already complemented with a stylish make-up and not defiant manicure.
- Owners of female forms need to emphasize them with clothes correctly. If female outlines are not acquired yet, then it is necessary just to emphasize the advantages. To most of men, it is unimportant in what they age, slender girls are pleasant. Therefore if there are excess centimeters, then it is necessary to pay more attention to sport.
- Good appearance without strong character anything. Only hardness has to be shown not in persistence, not in bustle for the guy, and in pride and inaccessibility. It is very important to be able to restrain when the guy wants to throw oneself on the neck. Defile with the equal back raised by the head and a smile upon the face by the elect. Such unapproachable personality will not leave indifferent either the peer, or the senior. But it is necessary to keep such role only until the gentleman does not show interest and will not exorcise the first. It is necessary to switch to lovely, easy communication further.
- In it it is necessary to show the mind and comprehensive development.
- To add a little cunning. It is necessary to try to find out about a focus of interest of the elect and to show enthusiasm for this subject. For example, if the guy likes to organize concerts, then it is possible to be caused in assistants by the costumier or the creator of newspapers. Of course, if there is such talent as singing or playing a musical instrument, then it will be great advantage.
- To be irreplaceable. It is good if the elect badly understands some school objects, and you them the expert. Tutoring — a good opportunity to approach and to know each other better.
- Become a star. It is possible to win a contest of beauty or talents, to become the sporty champion, to play in school theater, etc. Popular persons always attract keen interest of an opposite sex.
- When the guy pays attention to you, do not jump with joy. Lovely smile, and agree to the first appointment.
- Not to become flustered. Very often at the first contact of the girl with an object of her love she is lost, confused, nothing can tell. It is necessary to manage to overcome in itself all fears and it will be adjusted morally that it was possible to speak naturally. If there is on cheeks an easy flush, then nothing terrible. The main thing that the speech was free, easy, without stutter and a zapinaniye.
Important! It is necessary to trust in the forces always. Even if from the first nothing turned out, it is not necessary to despair. It is necessary to continue to adjust itself on the fact that you it is the best of all and he will surely pay attention to you.
What mistakes should be avoided?
Young beauties, battling for male attention, very often make the same mistakes, especially if work for the first time. Young men at teenage age very often like to pin up, laugh at someone and for them failure of the young lady will be the best opportunity to release couple of causticities in its address.
Whether you know? According to statistical data, two of five men marry the first love.
It can wound very much heart of the girl in love, and she can be closed for a long time, being afraid to suffer such indignity once again. The lack of skills of communication with a male at early age will negatively affect further life of the girl. It will be more difficult to it to come into contact with men in adulthood and if it and turns out, then it will stick to the first comer, being afraid that it will have no other chance any more. Therefore that it was not heavy at mature age, it is necessary not to make such mistakes in youth:
- Very clearly to show interest in the guy.
- To cause pity demonstration of unrequited love.
- To run after. The man, at any age, the available woman who openly offers herself does not interest. Yes, he will become interested in her, but it will be fleeting hobby. Having received the, he immediately will lose interest in such person.
- To make nonsenses. Many women like hooligan guys. In them there is something like that that attracts women as a magnet. Unfortunately, such guys, outgrowing the teenage period, not always change. In adulthood they often slide even stronger down. And division of hobbies (smoking, shirking of lessons, a lasagna on gates) with such guy will not bring to anything good in school. To fall down easily and quickly, and to get out here upward very difficult.
- Simple expectation and hope in thoughts for a meeting with an object of sympathy of positive results will not bring.
- Change of for the sake of the guy. It is possible to adapt to the interests of the pleasant boy, but it is not necessary to change completely for the sake of him itself, crossing through the inner self. It is necessary to remain itself always.
- To worry if he did not pay attention. Even world beauties remained alone more than once. Therefore it is not necessary to despair. Perhaps, it is not your person or you are too good for him.
- Most to show an initiative and to invite the guy to an appointment simply because it is fashionable or so girlfriends advised. It is necessary to make up the mind to the first step only as a last resort when the boy very much is pleasant.
- Demonstration of interest in all that is pleasant to a sympathy object. There cannot be two people with absolutely identical interests. It will surely cause caution in the guy and, most likely, he will push away you.
- To be jealous if it with another. Jealousy not the best quality. In it there is no sense when the guy with the girl do not meet yet. It is especially senseless to speak about it to him.
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Councils of psychologists
Experts in the field of psychology advise:
- To make so that he noticed. For this purpose it is possible to drop just allegedly accidentally near subject to lamentation the handle or to remain to remove with it a class, the territory. Such action seldom remains unaddressed and allows to arise to communication.
- To share interests. Hobby for common cause will allow to find quicker a common language, so and will facilitate acquaintance.
- To find something the general outside school. It can be just same way home. Sooner or later there will come that moment when the guy wants to help to inform of a heavy backpack of the little girl who is going ahead.
To win attention of the man it is difficult, especially at early age, when there is no experience in communication with an opposite sex, and around, apparently, is more and more more beautiful and is more skilled. In this case it is not necessary to despair. The main thing is to trust in the forces and to be engaged intensively in self-development to be an interesting person.