Human relations as it is sad, are not eternal. Quite often we are comprehended by disappointments and partings. The reasons for that can be much, but it is hardly necessary to stop in detail on them. Life does not stand still, and the new meeting can become replacement to the former relations. How to begin and to develop them?
1. The person cannot remain long lonely. But sometimes fear of the new relations and fears on the fact that the new love can never meet on our way, are capable to beat out from equilibrium state.
2. Sometimes the new relations should be begun with the analysis of mistakes in former attachment. We can react in the same way in similar situations. And often creation of the new relations wonderfully is based on past experience and possible mistakes. It is necessary to try to understand how to avoid repetition of former mistakes at a meeting with the new person.
3. At heart each person dreams of the serious relations, of creation of full-fledged family. Meeting the new person, we involuntarily try to estimate as far as he approaches for a role of the partner in life. At the same time does not prevent to remember that, critically estimating future elect or the darling, it is necessary to estimate realistically and himself.
4. How to lay the foundation for the new relations? First of all, allow the world and people to be such what they are. The ideal partner does not exist in the nature, the real person always has some weaknesses and a set of habits which to change you, believe, it cannot do.
5. It will be quite good if vital interests and values of the person who met on your way entirely coincide with yours. But it, alas, not always occurs. Therefore try to understand that the soccer, winter fishing or collecting of match labels can interfere in your relations unknown to you from time to time.
6. Sense of humour – the valuable assistant in the relations. It will always help with a difficult situation when there is a misunderstanding and offense. Nobody is insured from these troubles, but you can always consider any difficult situation in the relations with a smile and healthy irony. The main thing that ideas of humour at you and your partner at least coincided a little.
7. Be careful of false expectations according to which your partner is called to fulfill any your whim and unexpressed wish. Thought-reading – a rare gift which is given not everyone. Therefore try to express the desires in an obvious form. It will save the relations from a set of annoying misunderstanding.
8. Will help to make the new relations happier and filled with joy to you ability to give more, than you receive. It concerns not so much material things how many your emotions, kindness, heat, understanding, the indulgent relation to shortcomings.
9. Show flexibility in difficult and conflict situations without which no relations do. Pronounce aloud what you feel in relation to the arisen problem. Look for decisions which can satisfy interests and requirements of both parties.
10. Avoid unjustified criticism and meanness in assessment of acts of your partner. Try to state remarks in a correct and delicate form. At the same time it is necessary to give an assessment to concrete acts, but not to hang up labels on the identity of other person. Also you remember that the new relations are just new experience which will allow you to know and understand itself(himself) better. And each experience is invaluable.