It is very easy to lose trust, and its return rather slow and painful process. The sincere wound given by treason drags on at a distant day. But it does not mean that everything is already lost. If you still love the person and want to be together if all are ready to start anew, it is necessary to think that it is necessary to make again to find this belief.
Instruction
1. For a start try to ask yourself a question honestly: whether you forgave the person who changed you? If you consider that it is an inexcusable sin, then sooner or later your relations can go wrong completely. Perhaps, in this case just it is worth leaving? If you resolved that you forgave to darling his treason, then be consecutive: forgive him in soul and throw out this problem from the head. Do not make the life miserable of either yourself, or him. Try to construct the relations anew, without thinking about past mistakes.
2. Most likely, you are still "burnt" by offense, to you is heavy and painful. Try to reduce these feelings, having uttered. Quietly, without reproaches and charges, but have frankly a talk about what occurred with your darling. Look for a joint exit from current situation. Often happens that in such situations the people honestly speak what them disturbs that they test to each other, in what problems and what they would like to change. It can bring together you.
3. Without justifying an act of the half, try to understand and analyze the reasons which led to treason. Understand that they at all not in external circumstances also are not accidental. As it is bitter, but admit to yourself that you are guilty too of what occurred. Perhaps, you began to give less attention to the darling or, on the contrary, to the own person. Think whether you changed externally and did not cease to look after themselves and it is beautiful to put on? Or threw all the hobbies, do not develop and turned into the "grey", uninteresting personality? When you correctly define the reason of cooling of your relations, try to take measures to eliminate the errors.
4. Learn to love the partner it what he is. You do not assume that he is ideal and has no shortcomings? Everyone has shortcomings, but you for something fell in love with him? Try to surround him with the tenderness and attention, be tender and you are not sparing with praise and gratitude if the person of it deserved. Do not doubt: if the cosiness, love and warmth reign in your house, and it will want to return to it.
5. Try to be together as much as possible time. For example, organize joint leisure, but so that it was interesting to both of you. Give the chance to the person to make out your advantages.