Sometimes the sad end of the next novel causes in you desire to close heart on the lock. So you try to protect yourself from pain and disappointment. This normal instinct of self-preservation.
Instruction
1. Despite of everything, be open for new communication. There passes time, and negative feelings become dull. It is impossible to live with a heavy heart and melancholy in soul all the time. Such state takes away vital forces, does not allow to enjoy life. And life will present you new pleasant meetings and acquaintances. At least, you should not refuse them.
2. Communicating with the new acquaintance, you involuntarily compare him to your former men. Try to see in the person, new to you, good, merits. Estimate him in terms of your principles, allocate pluses and minuses. Such weighing will allow you to be defined whether it is worth continuing acquaintance. However do not allow excessive criticism to stop initially all attempts to construct the new relations. You should not draw full conclusions about the person on the first meeting. If the man interested you, then give him a chance to prove.
3. Do not forget that minuses are available for all people and also for you. The question is in whether you are ready to accept this person it what it is. It is very important for the serious relations. If you are ready to accept the person together with his shortcomings, then it speaks about your readiness for the new relations. Be not afraid of the feelings! Even if you about something will regret later, then only not that you stayed the life rest, having closed from all.
4. Think that life – is quite short. It will be very offensive if you spend it for the destroying excessive self-criticism. If the destiny gives you one more chance for luck, then you should not refuse it. Be adjusted on a positive, and you get in reply many positive emotions.