How many times for all the life did you hear declarations of love? Probably, not once. Most of people also spoke more than once to others about the ardent feelings. But for some reason many couples break up. Perhaps, there is it because of "irreconcilable contradictions", and, maybe, the cause is there is that circumstance that they take for love some other, though not less light, feeling. The main thing, in series of crazy vlyublennost and hobbies to manage to distinguish true love when it comes.
It is required to you
- Free time on thoughts.
Instruction
1. The true love can be confused easily with strong attachment, with love, with passion. As a rule, to speak about volume, the real feeling owns you or not, it is possible only later two-three of years since the beginning of the relations. By this moment of passion cease, grinding in almost comes to an end, there are no pink glasses in the eyes any more, all merits and demerits of the partner are known. Think whether you know what you love your partner for. If you can call quality no more than a two-three, and on the first place put external data, then it is not about love.
2. The true love cannot be without respect of partners to each other. Think whether say acts you and your partner that you respect each other. For example, the person respecting the partner will never take decisions for two.
3. Trying to distinguish true love, think whether there is a self-interest in your relations from one or other party. The loving person will not try to satisfy the requirements by means of the romantic relations with the partner. On the contrary, really loving person will try to make so that other person was happy, words and, the main thing, confirming with affairs the feelings. He will not demand that the partner also tried to make something for his benefit. The loving person has a need to do something good for this purpose whom he loves.
4. Seeking to distinguish true love, remember whether there are no proprietary motives in your love, rigid manifestations of jealousy. The true love is not persuasive, in it there is no place of desperate jealousy, she does not deny freedom and independence of other person. If, suddenly, one person wants to leave, then, the partner loving really, will release him, having wished good luck. He will not impose the feelings, will not demand proofs of love. The true love does not demand reciprocity.
5. Trying to distinguish true love, ponder, your feeling is how constructive. The true love inspires on feats, but does not cause destructive aspirations in any way. The world of the person who loves really is not narrowed to the sizes of one person. The loving person does not seek to become a single whole with darling, he can have feeling of a unification, but, at the same time, have separate life with the hobbies, affairs, friends. The loving person does not seek to see off with the partner all the time. The loving people use a pronoun "we", instead of pronouns "I" and "he", but at the same time, they remain different persons. And, for this reason, despite good knowledge of the partner, the loving people are not tired to learn each other all life.