Loss of the loved one - always a heavy event in our life. And the fact that we are far from alone in the grief cannot belittle or reduce our pain. What can help us to endure mortal blow of destiny? First of all, the grief has to be vyplakano. Its bowl cannot be born with itself on life as a precious vessel with an elixir. If we happened to drink a bitterness drink, it is necessary to steep in it and to come up already in new life. The way of a grief is difficult and full of sufferings, and it is better to pass it together with the person understanding and feeling you.
Instruction
1. In the first days after loss cry as much as possible. You should not listen to the consoling grandmothers and girlfriends advising to go to vanish. The ban on manifestation of emotions will only tire out deep into your feelings and pain which will not be slow to be shown in a depression and diseases.
2. Reveal in the grief to relatives and friends. Tell about the loss, about the person much, about everything that is connected with him. It is very important to Otgorevat in the first days and weeks after death close – there is a loss acceptance process.
3. You go to church and tell the grief to the priest or just to a postoyta on service. The church service helps to endure loss and relieves pain of the wounded soul. If you the true atheist, you do not break yourself. But think of a possible exception in this situation.
4. Recognize the powerlessness before inevitable. Philosophical reflections over frailty of life can channelize necessary to your thoughts. And also to force out absolutely senseless in fact question: "why so it happened".
5. When it does not want to say any more, write the feelings, emotions, thoughts and internal shout on paper. Create the diary and describe in it everything, even the most insignificant events. Draw on sheets that your hand will remove. The result on paper is unimportant, it is important that it will be in soul. Self-expression in art sense well removes sharpness of perception. This period normal can last from 2 to 6 months.
6. Over time, when the storm in soul will settle, make the plan of the first steps in your new life. You have to understand that decision-making to continue to live for the sake of love and for the sake of the future, it what wait our left for and what our relatives hope for.
7. Be engaged in physical exercises on the forces. No matter, than - fitness, rhythmics, gymnastics or soccer with children in the yard. The main thing to splash out negative energy here, in exchange getting positive emotions.
8. If independently it is not possible to cope with a grief, the fear grows in soul, you do not see sense in existence and live on an automatic pilot, means time for the professional help came. Address the psychologist working with technicians of an otgorevaniye. For this purpose it is necessary to find very few forces and to take the first step. You will be farther with it not one, and new life will become for you a reality.