Treason of darling is a serious blow to the relations in couple, on a devoted half, on trust, love and all the rest that connects couple. But despite this statistics is relentless: 3 of 4 men are incorrect to the women. To forgive or leave - here the main issue which rises before the deceived women when they learn the truth.
- To endure treason of the husband, to be necessary:
- - divorce certificate (in certain cases);
- - new set lower bilya;
- - ticket to some exotic countries;
- - money for consultations at the psychologist;
- - money for beauty shop.
1. When the woman learns about treason, the first feelings which she has - it is pain, offense, rage and desire to revenge. But psychologists assure, it is not necessary to be categorical at once. It is better to sit down and think. Treason in most cases is a sign that former cordial relations were gone in couple and something changed.
2. First, men very jealously treat appearance of the wife. If the woman ceases to watch herself, gets out of hand and does not want to get it together in any way, then sooner or later the husband will find to himself an ideal on the party. If the wife constantly suits houses of a hysterics with a ware beating, the man will leave grieving where to it is more comfortable. If you understood that in its treason there was also a part of your fault, and do not want to lose it, that is several rules which will help to endure treason of darling.
3. For a start it is necessary to separate from a situation. To sit to think. But not to be engaged in excessive self-criticism later to come to a conclusion: ""It I one is guilty of everything!"". It is just necessary to present a situation kind from outside to be realistic why so occurred. Then it is necessary it is got it together. What reaction is waited by the apostate? Correctly - scandal. Do not make rows. Take for yourself a timeout exactly for a week better. At this time it is possible sjezdt somewhere where there was a strong wish, but it was impossible in any way. And there once again to consider as you will behave further. Why for a week? Because the man needs so much time at first to realize the fault, then to understand how to it without you it is bad. If time passes more, and you do not come back, he already to learn to live one, and parting will not seem to it such terrible any more.
4. The following item will become ""indulge yourself"". It is valid that all this time to think only of, where what products to buy that the new clothes and about other household trifles are necessary. Remember that you the woman. And woman attractive. Way second to endure treason of the husband is to go at first to beauty shop, and then on shops. The main thing not to be afraid to risk and to completely change image. Your shape became for it already such habitual what to see you new to it very unexpectedly.
5. If in a breast it is all the same heavy, and in a throat a lump, then cry and you shout in plenty. So far you alone. Let with tears all negative leave. It will become easier.
6. Returned, forgave? Now you spend together as much as possible free time. As earlier, in youth. Try to be interested in its affairs more. Find to yourself a hobby and discuss with the husband. That he knew: you have interests and besides family. Then again it will be interesting to it with the wife, but not with the mistress.
7. And main rule: if forgave, then it is not necessary to remember the treason fact constantly. Get some new habits and traditions together with the spouse. Be for him new every time. And then at it will not look for need interesting, bright and clever on the party.