The relations with the married man even if you really love it, cannot be happy and cloudless. An outcome can be only two – or you will endure a gap which can be very painful, or will destroy his family that too will be very unpleasant for all including for his wife, children. Even if the married person will divorce that happens extremely seldom, all the same, most likely, you will subconsciously expect from him incorrectness, remembering yours with him the relations.
1. Communication with the person who is already married just catastrophically influences the woman's self-assessment. She does not feel favourite and desired, every evening her man comes back to the house, but not to her, and the wife. If you got involved in such relations, then you need to understand what pushed you at this choice. Most of women is not capable to fall in love with the married man for the reason that just instinctively women avoid such situations at which the similar relations could arise. The affair with not free man is humiliation, pain and suffering. If you had such novel whether then you associate love with feeling of pain? Most likely, such problem is. First of all realize it, then it is possible to move further.
2. There are some types of the relations which can be carried to unpromising. As a rule, as the reason for which feelings of people cannot develop into the strong and serious relations serves unequal position of partners. In this case the decisive word always remains for the married man – he leaves, and the woman waits for it. If you allow for yourself such relations, then probably you close eyes to their hopelessness, for fear of loneliness or for other reasons. Think what forces you to try to hold the married man.
3. Having thought over a situation, it is necessary to pass to practical steps. Feelings to other person whatever strong they were should not be strong feelings in relation to themselves. You need to lift a self-assessment. It can be done by means of the psychologist or to try to understand itself independently. Sometimes people justify themselves the fact that follow the feelings, but reality such is that they just not too appreciate themselves. If you have an underestimated self-assessment, then, probably, it will turn out so further that the most attractive to you men will be those who will create even more problems with your vanity.
4. The married man who got with you the relations, most likely, does not wish to leave neither you, nor the wife. Therefore in most cases such people only aggravate a situation, without allowing the woman to think and realize, her how deplorable state that it depended on it even more and did not leave anywhere. Perhaps, the man himself also got confused and cannot just resolve a situation.
5. Look in the future. If you do not break off these relations and will not try to forget married darling, then what will be your life in 5 years? All same, unless is not present? And if you make up the mind to this hard step and will begin to work on yourself, will lift the self-assessment, then in 5 years you, most likely, will already meet the person who really appreciates you. The happy future will not come until you meet halfway to it.