Many loving women seek to help the men. But in reply often hear reproaches, irritability and insistent requirements not to interfere. It occurs because women, from the point of view of men, do absolutely not that it is necessary. And by that only disturb.
Instruction
1. Choose a moment for a serious conversation. It is the best of all that the man at this moment was in good mood and it was ready for a constructive conversation. Men are more often located to a conversation after a nourishing lunch or a dinner, after a glass of wine, having relaxed after the working day or before going to bed. Find out its problem, what gnaws it and haunts it.
2. At a conversation try to listen more, than to speak. Spreading you the problems, it is important to man to be uttered, state all the arguments and reasonings. Listen to his words, try to penetrate into an essence of the arisen situation. If something is unclear, ask softly and unostentatiously, trying to choose a moment when your darling ends the thought. Having chosen such style of conversation, you will gain its attention and trust and will not provoke possible negative reaction.
3. Having accurately understood what result the man wants to achieve, offer it the options and ways of achievement of the goal. Do not insist on the at all! Try to reason the views, to give logical arguments, to pay attention to the facts. For men such way of thinking is closer. As a result he will see in you the companion, equal on intelligence, and the adherent, but not the emotional and illogical person.
4. If the man is able to reveal before you in the problem and will see in you the ally that, quite perhaps, he will ask about the concrete help. If it for some reason or other does not happen, ask him: "Than specifically I can help?" Then to appear an opportunity real affairs to give substantial support to your man.
5. Do not despair if you are able really to promote nothing useful in any situations to darling. In your forces to create him all conditions for an independent solution. Exempt it from household chores, forget till the best times about the whims, surround it with attention and care, create around it the atmosphere of comfort and a cosiness. Believe, in many cases it will be the invaluable help.