Today the divorce is quite everyday occurrence. Every day the great number of families breaks up, realities are that. Through time the woman finds to herself other man, enters repeated marriage. Not always the child has relations with the stepfather. But it is possible to take a detached view of this situation, and then, perhaps, it will be easier for you to admit to family of the new husband of mother.
Instruction
1. Of course, you cannot forget the father, he treated you very kindly and forever will be for you a native person. But if mother chose the new man, look narrowly at him. Try to find positive lines in its character. If he loves your mother, means and you to him are not indifferent. Do not push away him friendship. To be on friendly terms with the stepfather — it does not mean to betray the father.
2. Do not make a claim to mother, do not accuse her of what she pays much attention to the stepfather. She has the right too for luck. Of course, she wants in new family at you everything to be good. Do not make it rows of jealousy. It you inflict on it suffering. Try to communicate more with it, tell about the affairs, ask council. You spend more time together, three together. Suggest to go all to a premiere of the film or just to take a walk in the park.
3. Understand that to mother it would be lonely without the loving man and the loyal friend. You have friends with whom you spend the time, you communicate why you want to deprive mother of such opportunity? From the fact that in her life the man appeared it did not begin to love less you. Be glad that it has now a reliable friend too.
4. If the stepfather tries to establish for you any bans and rules, talk to him, let will explain, than it is caused. He really worries that you long are late at friends and come back home late at night, or just wants to show the men's power. From the answer you will understand whether it is sincere its intentions. If this nervousness valid, try to calm it, tell in what places you are and who sees off you. If you feel falseness in his words then offer compromises in return, but also demand the same from it.
5. You do not force an event. Do not demand manifestations of immediate love from the stepfather. It is not simple to it to get used to new family too. Perhaps, it has children from first marriage, and he very much misses them. Ask him on them. You will see how his eyes will become warmer. Perhaps, from this point at you more friendly relations will begin to develop. But establishing full contact will require not one month.