The relations of the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law – not only a subject of infinite jokes, but sometimes the cause of the family conflicts taking the sharpest form up to a divorce. And all because two seemingly adult sane women cannot find a common language in any way, forcing to suffer both each other, and that man for whom are the most expensive and close. Some mothers-in-law consider that daughters-in-law are always guilty of the conflicts. Nevertheless, it not so. And if desired it is absolutely easy to mother-in-law to adjust if not good then the tolerable relations with the daughter-in-law.
Instruction
1. How there was a wish to see "boy" nearby, the mother-in-law should live separately from family of the son. As two hostesses under the same roof get on still less than two bears in one den.
2. The son's mothers, with persistence, worthy the best application, clashing with his wife, it is necessary to remember more often, as she once was a daughter-in-law. And for certain she took offense at the mother-in-law, including that captious, importunate and unfair.
3. Make over yourself effort and stop to perceive the daughter-in-law as the smart aleck who inconsiderately "became hollow" in your family and the more so as the thief who stole from you the most expensive. The son chose and fell in love with this woman from the infinite number of women, so to it it is good with her. He means sees in her something like that that you do not notice or you do not want to notice, blinded by jealousy and hostility. It is enough to convince of himself of this truth as the daughter-in-law will cease to seem lazy, cunning, impudent at once.
4. The strongest argument: first of all hotly beloved son suffers from quarrels of mother and wife. It is worth remembering it and even the most selfish and captious mother-in-law will become thoughtful: but whether not to subdue the temperament? Whether not to try to establish with the daughter-in-law at least a temporary truce?
5. At last, you remember the old truth: "The first are conceded by the one who is cleverer!" You are more senior, you have much more life experience. Therefore on you the main responsibility for that your relations with the daughter-in-law did not remind "the front chronicle" lies.
6. Of course, completely it is hardly possible to get rid of jealousy. And the irrepressible aspiration of the senior generation to edify, teach youth, as ancient as the human race. But it is possible to avoid extremes, to behave. The daughter-in-law will hardly give a hostile reception to advice to the mother-in-law if they are given only sometimes, on business, besides, in a delicate, tactful form. Rather it will accept them with attention and gratitude.