To learn about what the husband or the young man the addict – is very heavy and sick. But it is even heavier to make the decision on leaving it, especially, if the woman loves it.
Drug addiction – a disease chronic and almost incurable. Certainly, also exceptions meet. The drug-addicted person can live all life in a remission stage, that is, total rejection of drugs, but it does not stop being the addict. Besides, narcologists consider that if the person uses narcotic substances from 1 to 2 years, he still has a chance to return to normal, sober life. But the fact is that most of patients do not wish to recognize the dependence or do not want from it to refuse.
The woman living with the addict very hard should spend all the sincere forces for him. Moreover, almost everyone considers that she will be able to help the husband to recover to the addict from his terrible illness. It is necessary to remember that nobody ever will help the person with weak will if he does not want that.
Whether it is worth leaving the addict?
If the woman found out that her darling is dependent on narcotic medicines, before her there is a hard choice. She should make the decision on leaving or to remain and live in a nightmare. It is especially difficult to decide what to do if an addict is the husband and children grow in family. Certainly, children should not look at all those horrors of which the person dependent on drugs is capable. It both theft, and aggression and much, many other. It is worth making the decision on leaving proceeding from what the person is. Certainly, if the husband daily uses and tyrannizes all family – questions of leaving should not stand. It is necessary to leave and save himself and children. But if darling tried once or has firm intention to stick, perhaps, it should give time. Unambiguous council, unfortunately, here cannot be. But useful visit of the psychologist and narcologist will begin to understand in what direction to work.
How to decide on leaving
If the woman made the firm decision to leave – it is necessary to leave, without looking back. Often addicts have great actor's talent and more than once will try to return the soulmate, pressing on pity. However you should not be encouraged: if the person did not find time, living with the wife, to try to get rid of the dependence, then, most likely, he any more will never make it. Leaving, it is necessary to change phone numbers or to make so that he could not find the woman. If there is an opportunity, then it is the best of all to move to other city or to replace the place of residence. Not to react to calls for help at all, it is manipulation. If the woman begins to live with it again, after a while everything can repeat again. Of course, it is very difficult to endure parting with darling, but if he has drug addiction and does not want from it to get rid, then it is the best of all to endure pain and offense from a gap. The dependent person will always have drugs on the first place.