Definition of a phrase "painless parting" cannot exist for the relations which once developed tremblingly and gently even if it was long ago, and behind the whole mountain of mutual offenses and insults is who knows remembered a little. There will pass time and bad will be forgotten (human memory - time heals is so arranged). Kind memoirs, common interests will begin to emerge... And therefore for the sake of all kind that was in the relations it is worth leaving peacefully, without hatred and damnations.
Instruction
1. All is the best of all to divide equally, kind of there was no wish for it how furniture grudged, household appliances and even... children. It is clear, that the real man leaves everything to the wife and children, leaves with one suitcase only of personal belongings. But he is a person, having a physical and spiritual need, which if not to satisfy too, then it is possible to reach also a disease. If to speak about material values, all of them acquirable, are not present today - every other day, month, year will appear because life is changeable.
2. It is the most difficult to divide the most valuable - children. But the more honest to divide them, the bezbolezny for them there will take place parting of parents. It is good to explain to them (at their level) that mother and the father cannot live more together that the child surely will have an opportunity to meet, and even to live, with mother, with the father. Also it is not necessary to prove the case (both mother, and the father, except for some special cases have legally identical rights for the child), being covered with children, except hatred to both parents and development of an inferiority complex it will bring nothing.
3. And the most important, in any situation it is necessary to remain civilized people. To talk quietly and if one of the parties cannot hold the emotions, then to give it time to have, and later to return to the negotiating table. At last, to leave let not friends, but at least familiar people who are connected many by intimate, kind, family secrets.