Elderly women, as a rule, have the settled views and values long ago, do not love big changes in the life as they badly adapt to them, prefer to all new the checked old. Therefore to persuade grandmothers on something serious it becomes frequent a problem.
Instruction
1. Before beginning arrangements, remember relationship with your grandmother. If you live with her in perfect harmony, regularly pay her attention – your arrangements are doomed to success. It will be difficult for kind elderly woman to refuse to the beloved grandson or the beloved granddaughter. If your relations left much to be desired recently, begin to work in this direction.
2. Internally forgive to the grandmother all offenses and injustice which once were between you. Then sincerely ask forgiveness for her. Tell her about how you love it, embrace her and kiss. Start with it a confidential conversation. Start arrangements not at once, and a week later - another. The relations have to become stronger, ice has to thaw, and your sincerity – not to leave doubts. Remember if the grandmother gives in to arrangements subsequently, and you will start treating coldly it over again, she will take offense, and will take hard deception.
3. During arrangements use power of persuasion, but not coercions. It is sensible and intelligibly explain it an essence of what you are going to do the reasons which roused you to it. Explain to her that its consent is important. Tell her about all positive sides of your idea and threaten negative. For example, if you persuade the grandmother to throw out stuff, threaten that the moth, cockroaches, flies and mice will be got. Act slowly, slowly, with arrangements, explanations and gifts. Sometimes well the non-standard and unexpected idea helps. For example, if the grandmother refuses to drink tablets, threaten that you will not eat.
4. If it is necessary to persuade the grandmother on something serious, for example, on moving, ask for the help the authority figure. For most of grandmothers authorities are the same elderly people as it, girlfriends and neighbors, doctors. If you secure with their help, your chances of success will sharply increase. On the other hand, to talk over the stranger and to persuade him to help you, it is necessary to use at full capacity skills of communication, friendliness and belief.