Your relations deteriorated because of offense, a silly quarrel or just because between you there was a distance? If you really wish to restore friendship, take the first step in order that there came reconciliation.
Instruction
1. The quarrel arose through your fault? Wait some time that both of you "exhausted". Perhaps, day or couple of days for this purpose will be required. Then try to ask quietly and sincerely about a meeting. Do not invite to the house and do not arise on a visit to the friend, suggest to meet behind a cup of tea in some not noisy place better.
2. Do not snatch with apologies at once as soon as it appears under review. Politely greet each other, make the order, then begin to speak. Keep quiet tone and affability. If you too worry, directly tell about it. Begin a conversation with warm words to the friend, then ask forgiveness. In a conversation inevitably you to a degree will concern a quarrel subject, try to find a way of its decision together. As a rule, someone or makes concessions, or if the quarrel arose "from scratch", friends just forget about it.
3. Do not interrupt each other during reconciliation attempt. You have to have a constructive dialogue, but not another quarrel. Do not raise the voice. Listen to the interlocutor, draw conclusions. If you do not agree with something, choose the principle "yes, but". It is applied to permission of the business and personal conflicts. For example, "You prepared the fine report, but the third point should be changed" or "In this question you are right, but in another allow not to agree with you". At the end of a conversation surely thank each other for understanding and an opportunity to listen.
4. If the friend does not wish to see you, switches-off phone and refuses to make contact, try to write it the letter. Send two messages better at once – electronic and "live", handwritten. Of course, it should not be the copies word for word repeating each other. Even if the friend will not answer you, you will be honest before yourself that you made everything that you could.
5. By the way, letters help to restore the friendly relations lost many years ago. Do not begin the letter with the banal words "how are you doing?". Tell at first about a few about yourself, in places remember your general jokes or words. Explain in the letter why you want to restore friendship. Be not exacting, the person is not obliged to be on friendly terms with you only because it is wanted by you.