The relations with the former partner can develop differently. Some couples really remain friends, others nurse a grievance at each other. In certain cases after a rupture of the relation it is possible to reanimate if it is really necessary.
Because of what there is a separation?
Couples leave for various reasons. Someone dispersed because of unsolvable crisis in the relations, in life of others the love just died, the third left because of treason of one of them. Anyway, really "former" partners in life are not. The offense, anger, rage, grief change the attitude towards the person, but allow to get rid of feeling of property not always. Besides, the long relations force people "to grow" each other, between them there is a special understanding, peculiar "household telepathy" so really there is no time to delete darling from life always not easy. For this reason many people have thoughts of renewal of relations with former.
During communication with the former beloved do not remember a gap. You do not rake over the past, do not sort out the relations. All this can lead to a quarrel that will give up as a bad job return of the former relations.
If couple dispersed at mutual desire without quarrels and scandals, will not construct the relations on this basis. Usually such people remain friends, can sometimes communicate, and minutes of loneliness appear in one bed. But essentially it changes nothing. Such couples leave due to the lack of common goals and interests, any more connects nothing them. And if the gap occurred really by agreement, then nothing to connect them and cannot.
Whether it is worth restoring destroyed?
If you want to return the partner who threw you or who was thrown by you, think whether it is necessary for you actually. After some time after a gap in memory there are only light moments, the negative is just erased so you can remember only the dignity of your former beloved, having forgotten about those shortcomings which caused parting. Resume communication with the former half, the great platform is provided for this purpose by social networks. If you feel that between you the contact is come, suggest him or her to meet, for a start it is better to invite the former beloved in some small company, so the situation will not be too intimate.
Be not afraid to flirt with the former partner, it will cause in his and your memory of reminiscence of how your feelings arose that will do only good if you really want to return him or her.
It is the simplest to come into contacts with the former spouse if you have general children. They also serve as main "glue". The father's visits to the child — a great way to probe the soil. An ordinary talk, the general subjects and memoirs — here that brings together people. Presence of the child just does such talk possible as it is not necessary to look for specially meetings that can look awkwardly. Actually, the best way (which is suitable for courageous people) is to ring the former partner, to suggest him or her to meet and to openly introduce the ideas. It can be done if between you there was at least the slightest hint on former feelings.