Before resolving an issue of how to take in hand the husband, think what you want. If occasionally you want to show rigidity in the relations with the man, it can be quite proper response. Constantly it is dangerous to play a role of strict mummy in the relations. And yet if you should achieve the, it is important to understand how it is possible and as it is impossible to induce the man to do something.
Instruction
1. Be consecutive. If you lay down conditions, carry out them. Let's tell, promised to put on a bucket with not taken out garbage the head, put on. Blurted out by negligence that you will leave to mother if he washes down, leave. If the man sees that your intentions are not intentions, but emotional blackmail at all, on it your threats will not work.
2. Set specific objectives. Not simply "it is advisable to begin repair in kitchen", and "on Saturday beat plinths in kitchen". Men badly understand hints. And your global reasonings on a subject "eh, it is good …" they would turn a deaf ear at all. They need accurate instructions if you want to achieve performance of any action.
3. Make the plan. For example, if you send the husband to do shopping to supermarket, write the list. There it is full of such lonely buyers of a male at whom with themselves paper leaflets are laid up. Also write as much as possible specifically: "2 kilograms of potato", but not "there are a little vegetables".
4. You appreciate its efforts. If you want it always to beat plinths and went to shop according to the first requirement, you praise it. He has to feel like the getter and the savior of a situation, but not the confused teenager who is lectured by strict mother. Just if he bought something not that, make lists more accurately. Men are not so attentive to trifles as women, it is objectively difficult for it to remember why you are angry every time when he buys fermented baked milk instead of kefir.
5. Avoid public dismantling. Even if your man made something not so, and you want to tell him about it, do not organize a squabble at strangers. Neighbors, friends or relatives should not see how you say with him about what he made incorrectly. It is not necessary to humiliate the knight on trifles, and then he will much easier agree to your requirements. And it will be easier for you to achieve the.