You are not silent when to you it is good and when it is bad. You do not hide either feelings, or emotions. If something happens, you seek to clear up at once. You are frank with it and wait for the same from it. What it? He sometimes never says that to it it is good, but - about what is bad. He loves clarity in everything, but waits that it will be brought by you. He appreciates your frankness, but itself prefers to be silent and wait that everything will be solved by itself. Teach your man to speak, using several receptions.
Instruction
1. You behave. The shouting, frenzied woman confident in the correctness and trying to drum the confidence all around is a natural disaster. Not in forces to resist to it, the man tries to take cover in every possible way, in this case, being closed and keeping silent. And if one is eager for a fight to dot one's "i's" and cross one's "t's", and the second - avoids blow, there is an insuperable barrier which interferes with settlement of the conflict. One accumulates on another, resulting in the total lack of mutual understanding.
2. You speak about a dispute subject by a quiet, equal voice. Be most tender even at those moments when there is no wish for it at all.
3. State only a key part of the problem, without being distracted by the foreign controversial issues ever taking place in your relations. Be explained by language, clear for your man, otherwise all conversation will go up the spout. Consider one feature of male mentality: if it does not understand something from what you try to inform of - immediately interprets all your passionate speech as it is more favorable to it, and almost at once begins to believe in own correctness sacredly. Do not give it such chance.
4. Do not accuse of anything your man, otherwise you can frighten off him from participation in a solution again. Remember that your purpose is only in expressing own experiences in any given occasion and to cause, thereby, it on response.
5. Let know to your man that finished speaking and brought your speech to the logical end that he knew - now a word behind it. If you notice that he is not ready to enter a conversation immediately - you do not hurry with the answer. Provide it time a little to think and formulate own reasons.
6. When the man, having finally collected the thoughts, decides to speak - at all do not interrupt him. Listen carefully very much, try to make out in all this its good intentions and do not carp at each word. Force it to feel that that he spoke, you began to understand also his point of view (even if it not absolutely so). Let he independently in practice will be convinced that thoughtful silence is not the decision for a problem, unlike a mature constructive conversation.