Not always the relations develop as it would be desirable. And at times the woman understands that couple has no future, but is afraid of changes. Is afraid of loneliness or just is under the influence of a habit. Sometimes the woman just does not understand whether arrange her relations or not, today everything is good, and next day - it is bad. For a start it is worth answering himself several questions then to decide whether it is worth continuing.
1. The relations have to bear advantage for you and give you joy. Always define for yourself what you want from the relations and whether you receive it. And for this purpose it is necessary to remain conscious and to look at a situation soberly even if time of emotion prevail over reason. Make the list of pluses and minuses and look at their ratio.
2. Throw the guy, without deliberating if he is a born tyrant, constantly controls you, and it is even worse - beats. Do not expect that you will be able to re-educate him. Statistics indicates the opposite. Here cases when the guy insists on that you refused something that to you it is expensive - works, girlfriends or a hobby belong.
3. Leave the man with whom you cannot relax. Perhaps, he from those who are not able to appreciate good attitude and take it for granted. Perhaps, some time of the relation on the verge will also allow you to maintain vitality and sharpness of feelings, but on such base you will not construct something serious. You will not be able to trust it when you are vulnerable, for example, during pregnancy.
4. If all of you time seek for self-development, and your partner prefers to spend free time on a sofa in front of the TV, think whether the one who will pull you back is necessary to you. Besides, often such men envy the successful passions and take great pain to force them to refuse the personal growth, career, etc. Understanding that fall short on level, they often try to ego-trip at the expense of others.
5. Be not sorry to leave the man who shifts all problems to your shoulders and not in forces to cope with any vital tasks. Many women get to a trap of a maternal instinct and live with men for whom they feel sorry and whom they hope to re-educate. Usually it does not lead to anything and is a waste of time.
6. Pay attention as the man treats you, to his acts. Whether your affairs whether with pleasure it helps you if necessary, whether not greedy it concern him whether rejoices to your progress. The partner has to appreciate you if you do not want to be always the suffering party in the relations. If initially his behavior to you leaves much to be desired, then, most likely, and will change further nothing.
7. Imagine your relations in the long term, that you know about the partner now. Do you accept what you see? If is not present, perhaps, it is worth thinking of a quarrel.