Though say that today in the relations between the man and the woman the increasing place is taken by sober calculation, nevertheless many marriages still consist on love. However even the people loving each other quite often have a misunderstanding, too frequent quarrels which lead to the fact that the man leaves family begin.
The woman who had a set of claims to the husband earlier after his leaving often bethinks, understands that she made many mistakes and begins to make efforts for returning it home. It is considered that the novel on the party is the main reason of leaving of the man, nevertheless so happens not always. Often the inability of spouses to find a common language, lack of mutual understanding, a difference in education level and breadth of vision, inability or unwillingness to make a compromise become the reasons of a gap.
Sometimes marriage is doomed from the very beginning. That similar did not happen, it is necessary to choose the partner in life from the social environment. If the girl successfully defended the master's thesis, and the young man hardly mastered the program of 9 classes, they will hardly be able long and happily to live together. Differences between them are too high.
However, adultery as cause of an abandoning the family, unfortunately, too not a rarity. However and it happens not just like that. If the man meets only continuous reproaches and misunderstanding in family, he willy-nilly begins to aspire there where as it seems to it, it is loved and understood. Having learned about treason of the husband, you should not make him scandals and to roll up hysterics. In its similar way it is only possible to push away. If the man left family, you should not give way to despair. For a start it is necessary to try to get it together and to quietly consider current situation. First of all it is worth answering himself a question: and whether it is necessary to return it? If the husband and the wife have nothing in common, different interests and outlooks on life, then to try to return it only not to remain alone, perhaps, nevertheless is not necessary. However if the house with its leaving became empty, in it is not enough really close and darling, and the wife understood, as she was in many respects wrong and ready to work on herself, she should fight for the husband. However, a lot of patience for this purpose is required. If he left to another and endures the period of passionate love, sufferings of the ex-wife is hardly touched it. Nevertheless it does not mean at all that for it everything is lost. The passion will cease over time, from eyes the veil will fall down, and all shortcomings of the new beloved will become obvious.
If the husband left to younger and beautiful competitor, it does not mean at all that the situation is absolutely hopeless. There is a mass of examples when, having been tired of whims of the young beauty, the man comes back to the loving and devoted spouse.
Until it occurred yet, the abandoned wife should be engaged in the appearance and whenever possible to update clothes. It is necessary to try to become as much as possible attractive. At the same time it is not necessary to become reserved. On the contrary, it is worth happening as often as possible in public, drawing attention of men. It is good if the husband learns that his wife has success. If its feelings to it did not die away finally yet, the feeling of the owner will not allow it to lose it. It is not necessary to avoid contacts with it. Only it is necessary to communicate quietly, without claims and reproaches, you should not ask the husband to come back home. He has to make this decision. If he states claims, it is necessary to listen quietly to them and to recognize the mistakes if they really were. Let the man will understand that the house him is waited not by the spiteful Fury, but careful and the loving woman.
If it was not succeeded to return the husband after all, it is worth concentrating efforts on search of more worthy, loving and understanding partner in life.
Some it is possible to try to meet it a time later. It is better if it occurs at home. It is possible to ask it about the help: for example, to repair something. You should not press on it, it is better to prepare its favourite dish, to watch together TV, to play with children. It is quite possible that the man will understand that he returned to the house and will not want to leave it any more. The main thing is not to repeat the former mistakes further.