Married men, especially, after several years of marriage or at the time of family crisis quite often bring mistresses. It allows them to distract from own problems, to understand that they are interesting and desired. But such hobbies seldom come to an end with a new wedding. To tie not free man forever, it is necessary to try.
Very often married men start affairs only for entertainment. They like to experience new emotions, there is a wish for a variety. At the same time they are strongly tied to the family and are not going to leave the wife at all. But there are cases when the adultery becomes the beginning of new strong love. To understand whether there is a sense to fight for the man, or except flashes of passion from his party you should not wait for anything, it is necessary to observe his behavior.
If the man wants to communicate with the woman, she is pleasant to him, it is ready to meet, then he in every possible way lets know about himself. He calls, sends SMS not only when wants sex with the mistress. But also just like that, to learn, how are you. He takes care, seeks to help, is interested in the girlfriend's problems. He wants to learn, as well as than she lives, meets her friends and relatives. He takes the responsibility for the woman. Such behavior shows that the man feels not just passion which quickly passes, and stronger feelings. And it means that it is possible to fight for his love.
If the lover appears only when it is convenient to him, does not penetrate into life of the new partner, is not interested in her affairs, does not help - it means only one. He is not going to build with it any long-term relations, to him all the same that she feels and what difficulties at it. In this case, if there is a purpose to start a family, but not just to have periodic sex with the indifferent person, it is better to break off the relations.
So far as concerns the first case, it is quite possible to count on creation of new family. In order that the man made the decision on new marriage, the woman has to behave correctly. But in each case the behavior is chosen proceeding from observation of the man. To marry the lover, it is necessary to be very attentive. It is necessary to notice what is pleasant to him in the woman and that is not present. If he wants homeliness and heat - it is necessary to become tender and gentle, to learn well to cook and cease to argue in each occasion. It is necessary to let the man know that his role - predominating. That he is responsible for happiness of the woman. And happiness in this case - official marriage.
Men love well-groomed women. A concept about beauty at everyone the, and here the luster and elegance attract the majority. Therefore it is necessary to watch the appearance, to be always on the ball - not only on appointments, but also at home.
In case the man was tired of the wife housewife, he can want to see in the new partner opposite qualities - commitment, independence, activity. To catch such person in husbands, it is necessary to become the self-sufficient woman. That is in every possible way to show that the relations with the lover though are important, but not on the first place. Sometimes it is necessary "to forget" about appointments, to vanish for a while, not to answer calls. To agree to meetings only when it is convenient. Not to adapt to the man. But along with it, during the appointments, it is necessary to be gentle and passionate, otherwise the married man will quickly lose interest in absolutely inaccessible purpose.
With the man who has small children it is better not to get the relations. For him the meeting with the mistress is a way to find temporary tranquility. He does not look for new marriage, just tries to keep old in such strange way.
It is possible to speak about marriage with the married man approximately in half a year of constant meetings. This time is enough in order that the indecisivest lover was defined in feelings. And six months to understand, the love, true at it, or just passion and desire to possess inaccessible will be enough for the woman. But you should not press on the man at all. It is necessary to begin with straight talk concerning the future couples. Most likely, the man will not agree to a divorce at once. But it is not a main goal of a conversation. The basic is to inform of true desires of the woman the partner. After that it needs to let time think. Men often are very not sure of themselves, it is simpler to them to remain with the unloved wife, than to leave to the new woman. That it was easier for lover to decide, it is necessary to create visibility of family. To show more attention and cares, to become a little more persistent. If the man really loves if he is sure that in new family to it it will not be worse, than in old, he, most likely, will make the decision on leaving.