Sometimes it happens so that the relations of two people in love grow cold over time. There passes the passion, jealousy, and they are succeeded by the ordinary and a habit.
Hero not of your novel
Normally, when the woman one, it is bad when she one, but lives with the man. Really, nobody wants to be lonely. But happens so that the relations do not bring pleasure any more, they became obsolete. It is very terrible to live life not with that person.
How to understand that feelings grew cold
How to understand that your feelings are at a cooling stage? Probably, first of all it is worth listening to own inner voice. If you catch yourself on a thought that you do not wait for its call any more, do not hurry home, rejoice if your darling is absent - it is the first calls of the fact that not everything is so smooth in the relations.
Usually there comes a certain apathy. There is no wish to surprise, think out surprises, to create the pleasant moments, whatever active person you were.
It is necessary to remember chain reaction. If for these relations nothing is done by you, usually, the man grows cold too and ceases to show an initiative. You can meet, live together, conduct the general economy, but the relations for you - already just a habit.
To leave or fight?
It is very important question which you have to themselves answer honestly. For a start try to be stirred up a little. Perhaps, change of a situation will help. In the distance from each other you will understand what place is taken by this person in your life whether it is easy for you without it. You can try to warm up the relations, having begun to show an initiative independently. Try banal methods – not to carp, not to be beetle-browed, not to control. Prepare a favourite dish, please the man. Show ingenuity in a bed.
Perhaps, you need only a couple of romantic evenings, and the love and tender care will return to the relations again. Well joint rest and in general any bright positive impressions received together works.
But what to do if nothing from the above-mentioned helps? It is necessary to show wisdom. Perhaps, it is temporary crisis, and everything can soon change. And it is possible how it is regrettable, your relations became obsolete. It often happens when one of couple kind of outgrows another – reaches something bigger in career, or on the contrary, has some problems which oppress him. Thereof lovers move away from each other, their interests and vital values change. Before breaking off the relations, well think whether you will be sorry then about it. But if you resolved that near you not that person – you do not hold him. Make room for your happiness.