For creation of the strong relations of one love it is not enough. In the aspiration to please darling the woman often behaves incorrectly. The made mistakes can lead to sad consequences. How to avoid these mistakes? There is a number of rules, following to which will help the woman to be happy.
The woman for the sake of darling is ready for a lot of things. And some women sacrifice everything for the sake of the elect. The question is in whether your beloved is ready to accept it? Whether such sacrifice of the relation will keep?
The love is a chemistry. Long love – mutual respect of two independent people. Being dissolved in the partner, the woman loses identity, stops being interesting. Notorious "highlight" vanishes. The gentleman switches to other girls: spends with them free time, makes plans for the future.
There are 4 things which the girl for the sake of the partner should not do. Following these rules, she will keep self-esteem, so – mutual love.
Rule 1. Do not pretend to be
During courtings the best qualities are shown. Walks outdoors, a talk behind a cup of coffee help to recognize closer the partner, to prove to be from a favorable side. Desire to be pleasant often forces the girl to seem intuitively not to that whom she is actually.
It is imposed courageous and impudent? – She tells suitable stories from "private life". He prefers little girls with short hairstyles? – It rushes to cut off long hair to the hairdresser.
First it amuses, warms up an intrigue. But subsequently need to play others role tires, begins to irritate. The gentleman is disappointed, feels deceived. The relations come to an end.
Be yourself. Darling paid attention to you. Why to offer it other person?
Rule 2. Do not give to the man money
He is a getter. She is a keeper of the center. This division of roles continues to be relevant in the modern world.
Along with feelings the guy has a need to be responsible for the girlfriend. The nature is so arranged. To give a pleasant gift, to protect, help. It has to realize itself(himself) as the man.
Giving to darling money, the woman deprives of him courage. Because for the real man it is humiliating to take money from the woman. The meaning of the relations is lost. It is difficult for it to be implemented both on the personal front, and in the professional sphere.
The man who does not have an opportunity to be responsible collapses, loses will. He or gets used, becoming worthless, or leaves to other woman with whom finds self-esteem, so happiness.
Rule 3. You do not suffer violence
He and she supplement each other. If it weak, then he is strong. Strength of darling not in fists and sharp words, and in ability to preserve against adversities of close people. Even the most insignificant hint on physical or psychological abuse has to become a signal to break in relations.
Today it is swing by a hand, tomorrow – blow, the day after tomorrow – a hospital bed. The tyrant will not stop. Even the most plaintive of wheedling of forgiveness will not change the sad future. The tyrant needs the victim. An exit only one – parting. Manhandling will stop when it understands that you have no fear any more that you were exempted from pernicious communication.
Rule 4. Do not forgive treacheries
Strangely enough, but treason and treachery – different concepts. Treason to treason discord. Even the man most in love pays attention to other women. It is put by the nature. A task of the wise spouse or young girl to remain always desired for the elect: to watch itself, to admire darling.
To forgive or not to forgive an accidental intrigue – business especially personal. Everyone should answer herself difficult questions. Whether it is possible to keep sincerity of the relations with this knowledge? Whether there will be a trust to the partner? Whether the jealousy will make the life miserable? Whether the traitor realizes the fault?
Another matter long extramarital affair, numerous unfaithfulness. The person leads a double life, is not afraid to lose the girl. Lies, dodges, betrays the relations.
Sooner or later treachery becomes obvious. It is impossible to forgive it. Such man does not respect the darling, is indifferent to her experiences. Reproaches, suspicions cause in him irritation, further anger.
There is no sense to cling to such poisoning love. Having endured a gap, you are restored, will open the heart to new acquaintance.
Conclusion
There is a reasonable question: "And what the woman for the sake of the darling has to do?" It has to surround it with care, attention. To give tenderness. To create homeliness. The main thing is to appreciate the elect, to understand and accept his weaknesses.