A few years ago, the French director Paul Larbre offered the new movie "Houses on One Street" on court of the audience. It is a two-part picture in which both series tell the same story, show the same events, but all events are considered from various points of view – men's and women's. The most important task which actors had to play came down to an ambivalent formula "Treason to the Husband, Treason to the Wife". In other words, through all movie there passed the question of whether the incorrectness of "my" floor is admissible, and whether it is admissible – "opposite". As one would expect, men treat own unfaithfulness more tolerantly, but for women they laid up nearly chastity belts: ladies should not change under no circumstances.
Further, on a plot it was asked: And with what it is stat the husband has the right for treason whereas its lawful half has to be as Caesar's wife – out of suspicions? And, any of men did not give more or less intelligible answer. Only not really distinct justifications like, "the wife is a keeper of a home", or "I have to be sure that these children – mine". To put it briefly, – it is not convincing. Women were in this respect slightly other opinion, they argued much, tried to reason, but most of them after all agreed that "from the good husband the wife will not begin to change". However, it in France … And that is at cinema …
Actually from unfaithfulness no, even most loving couple is insured. Many cases of incorrectness result only because that the man looks for the Woman in all women, and that, in turn, tries to find all Men – in one. She wants her husband to be the clever, sporty, sensitive, artistic, understanding, hard-working and sociable Marlon Brando with DiCaprio's eyes and someone's charming smile. For some moment all this idealized being merges with darling and is completely identified with it. Agree that "enlightenment" will not keep itself waiting long. And the man, as a matter of fact, having entered the relations with that in which as it seems to him, there is some part from the Great Lady, nevertheless does not find in the wife all image entirely. His passion forces to change, that is, "to saddle a horse" and again to be let to its search.
Then the husband it will be guilty to justify itself, as itself does not know how treason to the wife could happen that found "some eclipse". The wife, in a similar situation will look down too and will tell like, "from what I fooled around – not differently, the demon confused". But all this will follow only after the fact of treason becomes obvious to the partner. "To admit or not to admit" – most of husbands a similar dilemma do not suffer, and are not going to suffer. Even overtaken in others bed, they to the last will open, thinking out dozens of ridiculous and ridiculous excuses. And the changed wives, on the contrary, feel remorse rather often.
If you fooled around (wife) once, accidentally or under the influence of unexpectedly "gushed" passion do not aspire to a meeting any more, then it is better simply … to forget about this fact. Fleeting physical treason is a miserable amount, in comparison with treason psychological. Here if with subject to treason you test spiritual proximity which lacks you in marriage if every minute you want to hear a desired voice if heart sings, and soul exults when you, having just joined hands, walk on the evening city – here then everything much more seriously, then you actually change …