Family happiness – some idea of it at the person is usually had since the childhood. But so it turns out that adult independent life and experience of relationship quite strongly change an image which was built in the head. They say that everyone holds happiness in the hand, it is necessary to dispose of it only correctly. But how to make it also what such family happiness?
The ideal recipe of happiness whether there is it?
Whoever wanted to have ideal ideas of family happiness in the head? And it is quite good that the partner had the same. A simple formula on which it would be possible to build life, several rules, working according to which, you will never be mistaken. Why do not teach it at school? And in general, whether there are such rules? Whether family happiness is possible?
In a sense it is possible to answer with confidence that yes, it is possible. And rules exist. Family happiness is under construction on the simple bases, it is love, trust and respect. Only three principles, following which, partners are capable to create the strong union for long term.
But everything is so easy only in words. It is usually not so simple to follow these principles. There are such difficulties as life, problems at work, bad mood, boredom, suspiciousness and jealousy … It is possible to list long. Nevertheless, if you want your family to do not break up, then learn to appreciate it. For this purpose sometimes it is necessary to constrain itself, and in other time, on the contrary, to decide on frankness with the partner and to have courage to discuss even private matters.
Rules of family happiness
Your soulmate, your partner – darling – the independent personality. Keep respect for it, accept it what it is. Even if you are dissatisfied with something, try to discuss it. To manipulate the person, "to saw" and complain, try to change him: all this leads to loss of mutual respect. Leave to the partner the right to be engaged in own affairs, to have the hobbies and friends even if some of them are not pleasant to you. Trust the partner. It is a basis of relationship when which losing all the rest too for a long time is not late. Find some hobbies which you would do together. If you have no general hobbies, then go together to the cinema or in restaurant, in clubs or on exhibitions. To support trust, you have to have something that unites you, but also there has to be also something that continues to do everyone interesting in the opinion of the partner. Pay sufficient attention to intimate life. It is impossible to tell that good sex can correct the lack of confidence and mutual understandings. But absolutely precisely that sex serves as a peculiar marker in the relations. As soon as it spoils, it obviously means that something goes not so. Solve problems, and the earlier you will begin to do it, the better. Do not try to draw a blanket on yourself. The family is a shared responsibility. If someone constantly does more, and another only uses, long it cannot proceed. Partners have to approach consciously process and understand that if they started such joint venture as family, and duties it is necessary to divide equally. What should not be done, so it to sort out the relations, reproaching each other that who does more. Try to talk instead as adults, and to divide duties.